Cancer Man and Aquarius Woman Compatibility

Famous Cancer-Aquarius Couples:

The hidden quality in this relationship is a something they share called “zaniness”.  Both parties see the world a little tilted and enjoy their perspectives immensely.  There is some gender bending as well.  The Cancer man is nurturing and caring while the Aquarius woman provides clarity and vision.  As you can see by the famous couples listed, it can be a very positive and enduring relationship.   All three of the couples are synonymous with “great loves”.  Cancer is the most protective sign while Aquarius is the boldest.  Often the man is looking for an intellectual component – a cold shower as it were – which is a big relief to the Aquarius woman who is too often expected to dumb down.   Her intellectual capabilities come not in terms of logic, culture or education. Rather it is her strokes of genius which come in terms of inspiration, bolts out of the blue, those shocking things Aquarians say with which there is no arguing and after which you never look at the world the same way again.  Their deepest connection, however, comes from Aquarius’ desire to lead a conventional lifestyle and Cancer’s ability to provide just that.  Having a big sweet hunk of a guy take care of you, gives Aquarius the perfect cover.  People will think she’s normal, just like other women.

How to Attract a Cancer Man as an Aquarius Woman:  Be opinionated, independent and aloof.  Act like you’ve gotta wear the pants.  When involved as a couple he needs to know that you’ll play Bad Cop to his Good Cop.  It’s essential to his modus operandi.

How to Attract an Aquarius Woman as a Cancer Man:

Trot out your traditional offerings:  home, family, security, emotional comfort, protection and serenity.  It will look like a shrine to her, an altar to everything she considers holy! LOL

Degree of Romance:

This relationship has an etheric sweetness to it which surpasses romanticism because it is quite genuinely streaming from the higher planes.  I swear at times these two can hear the angels sing.

Degree of Passion:

This relationship is open to higher vibrations than passion.  There is a kind of soul harmony music that passes between them, like playing a human harp at just the right pitch.

Degree of Friendship:

These two can be quite devoted to one another especially as there is little ego connection between them.  They can be selfless in each other’s presence like no two other people.

Degree of Marriage:

This seemingly unlikely combination makes an excellent and lasting marriage.  Cancers never want to end anything and Aquarians are among the most loyal of the zodiac.  Both “believe in” marriage.  Cancer thrives on the idea of home (nest) (haven) and comfort while Aquarius craves having what she thinks everyone else has.  Aquarians pay a huge price for their Promethean qualities and often stand alone and exposed in the world they are trying to help.  Cancer gives them a safe place to take respite.

Progression of Relationship:

Nobody does relationships like a Cancer though it may be a bit cloying at time for Ms. Aquarius.  He will make her feel wanted, needed and treasured.  He is a good planner and a thoughtful companion.  Every detail of her comfort will be considered (Is it warm enough for you?  Do you know where the ladies room is?  Should I push the seat back farther?) Once he introduces you to his mother, I mean family, you know you’re in!  Ms. Aquarius will eat up the conventionality, having to pinch herself to believe 1) it’s real and 2) it’s  happening to  her.  At last, she has a “Good Housekeeping” relationship!,


Their sexual union approaches communion, that wordless and perfect merging of two souls in two bodies.

When It’s Over:

It’s not likely to end if both are secure individuals.  If one or the other gets off balance, it can turn pretty cold.  Aquarius tortures Cancer, turning on him and accusing him of being clingy and needy while Cancer accuses Aquarius of not being a real woman.

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  1. Danny, I’m an Aquarius girl and I like a cancer guy as we speak. We have great talks when we’re alone. Aquarius girls like attention from many people. We love big scenes. Make it big and in front of people. Use big words, we love intellect ;P but if you arent sure she likes you, if she’s putting up with your clinginess, then she likes you BIG TIME

  2. how should i do it

  3. Just ask her out – she would love it and she hasnt told you how she feels because she doesnt want to if she isnt 250% sure that he likes her back..

  4. There is this aquarius female that i really really like but im scared to tell her how i feel because im fearing that she might the oppisite of what expect also im scared to mess her image she is one of the few girls that dont hate me she is always positive she thinks im funny kool and handsome i think she likes me but i dont how to approach to her i try to make laugh i try to be positive and i try to be unpredictable but wont tell me how she feel about me how do i get answers out her mouth

  5. meme :

    .. . . . He is so funny and he is extremly moody. I just bought a house with a man cave and when his mood swings act up I just send him down there. So, I fixed that problem. . . . . .

    Type your comment here

    YES!! that is the key, a fun shell to crawl in – mine is a home gym!

  6. cancer/cancer man here ~ really value this site and all the heartfelt comments from the smart women!….my opinion, honestly tell us cancers how you feel and what you like; if we are into you – your happiness will be our primary goal ||| be wary of interest like the tide, it can equate to shallow commitment like the surfs edge –epic love is calm, the deep crab waters– . . . . and with respect to other mommy comments: my next up brother shares the birthday +4 years, he is still a mommies boy and mommy was nothing to me by the time i was a teenager. -namaste-

  7. Thank you so much for this! Probably one of the most positive analyses I’ve seen thus far regarding the Aqua girl and Cancer guy. I’m an Aqua girl, and my instinct tells me the Cancer guy is interested in me (e.g. the gazes, asking if I’m single, etc.). He seems to be a bit clueless if not insecure about my interest in him, since I’m good at guarding my interest. He hasn’t made any moves even though I’ve initiated a couple of times. I am trying to give him more encouragement, so I hope we will eventually get around to dating! Do you suggest I take a more direct approach with him (in pursuit) or wait longer?

  8. Lucy MarieMarch 3, 2011 at 12:50 am

    I recently started dating a cancer (July 6) and i’m an aquarian (Feb 9). He is 26, i’m 33. I find him to be very sexy and one of the sweetest guys i’ve ever known. He is leaving for Florida in 2 days and will be gone until the 13th. I told him that I will be going to New York from the 11th to the 13th to visit a male friend from high school whom I haven’t seen for 16yrs. I started to see a look come across his face and quickly realized he was a little jealous. I’m not gonna lie…it was a huge turn on. I would never try to make someone jealous intentionally for the attention though. Anyways, less than an hour later he asked if he were to send me flowers and an airline ticket to Florida if I would accept. I was caught off guard and didn’t say much. He even weighed out the two choices making his idea sound very tempting. On my way home I called him and said “yes, yes, I would much rather be with you in Florida than go to New York.” To my surprise he seemed to have retracted the offer by suggesting after 16yrs this person is practically a stranger and I should be sure I have some way of defending myself just in case.
    ????? Are you kidding me? I let my guard down and this is his response? Now i’m confused and have no idea where I stand. I don’t want to come out and just ask because i’m afraid his response may hurt my feelings. When my feelings get hurt I turn and run without ever looking back. I don’t want to do that. I really want to explore the cancer world and what it has to offer. My past relationships have been the complete opposite of what I can see with him.
    What can I do to keep him interested and to understand how he really feels?
    One last thing…On our second date he told me he thinks we should wait 20 dates before we have sex. We have only been on 3…17 to go!!!

  9. Hope at last!!! I met an Aquarius lady and she is absolutely intriguing, I feel that there could be something so special here for both of us, its still so fresh but I just needed some hope, of course it depends on the individuals too but she is just amazing!

  10. Hello, im a aquarius girl & i am deeply inlove with a cancer guy, he is so loving & caring & our friendship is unpredictable i have a feeling tht we are gonna be more than just friends within a few days.. & omg he totally likes me back.!

  11. AquariuswomanFebruary 5, 2011 at 5:20 am

    I am an Aquarius woman and my fiancé is a cancer male, we have been together for almost two years and we live together. This article is sooo correct and I loved how you didn’t write the cliché “Aquarius and Cancer relationship”. My cancer male is tremendously the best guy I ever dated, he is caring, sweet, and loving. However he does have his moods and it makes me a little mad because he is a little timid when dealing with family or friends although family is very important I believe you should have a little backbone and not Mr. Yes. He isn’t as emotional as cancers are portrayed or should I saw he doesn’t show his emotion but some things I may say can be a little too insensitive. Overall we are “ONE” lol and we couldn’t be happier, it is just about communication in this relationship and respect. Once you are able to sit and explain to your cancer guy “How you feel” and be open (Aquarius) this can work!!

  12. Im a Cancer guy with plans to pursue a Aquarius female. At first I was turned off by info from other sites…..but this site gives me a little more assurence that it could work…wish me luck

  13. As an Aquarius female who just recently got into a relationship with a Cancer male, I can attest this is spot on, very hopeful, and in tune with everything my Cancer boy and I have discussed.

    (Like Maureen above me, everything I’d read was all “the Aquarius will be too unconventional for the Cancer and scare him off,” etc., etc. and it worried me because the last thing I want is this relationship going sour!)

  14. Omgosh! I just started dating a Cancer and you are right on! i was so discouraged when I read that we were doomed etc. in other Astrology books but your description so far fits us perfectly!

    Now I have hope!

    Thank you sooo much!

  15. Your analysis is perfect!! Thank you for a wonderful explanation! You ate sooooo on point!! To a T!!!!

  16. Nesianlady99December 7, 2010 at 12:50 am

    “..People will think she’s normal, just like other women.” HA!! I love love love this! I am an aquarius woman, my best friend for the rest of my life is a cancer male. We connected instantly off of our dark/skewed/hilarious/totally weird view of the world as 9th graders, and 15 years later everything that fell into place and hasn’t moved since.. just as we plan to keep it. We are loyal and dedicated enough to know that nothing [time, space, location, event, mammal, etc.] will ever come between him and I as friends. We are most definitely connected spiritually; we go for years without seeing eachother, but still have immediate reactions when something is/isn’t right with either one of us.. We call it ‘BFF telepathy’ and its always 100% correct; we’ve never tried to explain it and never had to because really, it doesn’t matter. I love my crabbies <3

  17. cttonio :
    i am cancer and i am in a serious relation with january 25th girl(AQUA). even up till now she is still asking me if i really meant wht i said. NOW I WANT TO MARRY HER. I NEED SOME HELP . I WILL PROPOSE HER IN 54HOURS TIME. I NEED HELP

    Type your comment here


  19. i am cancer and i am in a serious relation with febuary 25th girl(AQUA). even up till now she is still asking me if i really meant wht i said. NOW I WANT TO MARRY HER. I NEED SOME HELP . I WILL PROPOSE HER IN 54HOURS TIME. I NEED HELP

  20. I have been seeing a cancer guy for a month and at first we vibed so well but now it seems like he is pulling away and I’m the one trying to keep the contact going. Is this normal behavior for a cancer? Other cancer dudes I’ve dated are so much more needy but not this one. I feel like roles are reversed but idk. Any advise???

  21. iam an cancer guy who loves his aqua girl so much but she keeps pulling away every three months and i dont no what to do its very unsettling she has a wee girl who loves me so much but what do you do so sad itry to talk and find out her likes dislikes but she cant talk and it can be hell

  22. wat ever u said thats true

  23. OMG!! I’m with everyone else this is the first article that i have read that puts a positive outlook on aqua and cancer rships and this one doesn’t even say anything about some one having to become submissive to the other in order for the relationship to last. I am aqua girl my cancer guy and i have been dating for 7yrs and we have four kids. He is needy but its okay with me because he provides so much for the kids and i. One flaw doesn’t matter compared to five or six. i love him alot and he doesn’t like to end a relationship at all he wud rather work it out and get some kind of clarity. we plan on getting married in the years to come. we have some type of bond that no other signs have and no other signs can compare.

  24. I’ve been married 7 years to a cancer sun and moon and I’m an aquarius sun and moon. Believe me if I was a killer our first 3 years of marriage he would of been dead. But, for the grace of God we’re still together. I couldn’t imagine myself without him. We just had to get the corks out. He is so funny and he is extremly moody. I just bought a house with a man cave and when his mood swings act up I just send him down there. So, I fixed that problem. I’m so happy someone wrote somthing good about this couple. They always say Cancer men are too needy and Aquarius women are to independant. But, I don’t feel my cancer needs to much of anything and I still do what I want.

  25. Very perceptive! I am an Aqua woman married twice. First to a Libra then Gemini. My cancer friend was married twice also to two scorps. Both our marriages were unfullfilling. Today, we are best of friends providing exactly what you wrote. It is a deep connection friendship. However he has his moon in Aquarius. I never had a friendship so close. His warm and fuzziness provides a melt down to my reserve.
    I am so pleased that you wrote ‘outside’ the box. You insights into the signs is the best website yet.
    However, your scorp/aqua combo really intriques me!

  26. The cancer man is kind, sweet, but very deceptive and plays alot of games with women…… don’t know how to say No polite to all the ladies and will cheat very much the ladies man. If you are an Aquarius woman like myself very independent and head strong think twice, the interest is for power, security, money and your support, but Love true love not a cancer man. He likes everything and doesn’t have preference. you are chosen because of independence. Less work for the cancer man, but you will share him believe that he is very sneaky and lie.

  27. aquarius/cancer???!!! i never thought in a million years that this could be a good combination lol
    im happy for the girls who commented but i still cant stand cancer! UGH

  28. WOW!! This is AMAZINGLY TRUE! I don’t know how you do it but my Cancer boyfriend is exactly as you described, and I am definitely an Aquarian! We will be getting married next year, and that decision was made BEFORE I read this. We have a terrific connection.

  29. omg i love this site. I am an Aquarrius young_woman whos been in love with a cancer amb for four years. i seem to always forget guys names numbers.. hell even the guy hisself, but when it comes to this particular guy i cant seem to stop forgetting about him. I always look at poeple flaws but when it comes to mr. cancer i ignore them all. weve been friends for, four years and all but i cant seem to push it to that next level why? i am very attractive , independent, and intelligent what more can a guy want? awwwwrff??

  30. I just thought I’d share that I couldn’t agree more with this article. As an Aquarius woman who’s been dating a Cancer man on and off for the past year, I can attest to how eerily true this is. I recently realized that I’ve been sabatoging our relationship by succumbing to bouts of insecurity. I hope he never lets me get away, because I adore him… despite myself! <3

  31. You are awesome and this site is one of the best b/c it is precise and uncanny. LOL – as an Aquarius woman – this site made me giggle for being spot on.

  32. Hi! I’m an Aquarius female and I’ve been dating a Cancer male for a month. He is so sweet and caring, intellectual and loyal. Your analysis of the relationship between the two signs is exactly what I’m experiencing. My moon is in Cancer so it makes me very emotional.he appreciates that and is not afraid of my feelings and emotions unlike a libra who I think are fake with their feelings. I think this Cancer man is just right for me!!! Thank you again for your positive words!! It is kinda unbelievable just like you said. Lol

  33. I really like all of the positive feedback on the aquarius cancer relationship. My husband and I have our ups and downs and mostly about small silly things. I feel our marriage will be a successful one., because he doesn’t like to end things, although, I’m just the opposite, his will to hold on makes me want to be held onto! 🙂

  34. OMG, its nice to hear some good stuff finally. the when its over part is very true tho I was always telling my bf he was to needy and he was always telling me i did not act like a girl I was not emotional enough.

  35. I just got out of a 6 month relationship with a Cancer. It was amazing. The feelings I felt with him were electrifying to say the least. But toward the end he got wrapped up with work and I was put last on his agenda so I left. Simple. But I’m now interested in a Gemini and an Aquarius (Oh am loving my free single life). I’ll update, on how it goes 😉

  36. im still confused is the relation a long lasting one?

  37. OMG! Finally, something good on this combination.
    My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 and a half years and everything i’ve heard about aquarians and cancerians is all negative!
    It wasn’t very reassuring, because we’ve been having little arguments lately, so all the negative was a bit depressing.
    But i thankyou for positive information 🙂 its made me feel heaps better about the situation.

  38. I am an aquarius woman and my friend at work is a cancer man. I think he is a very sweet, kind person, but a little indecisive and has a hard time saying “no” to people. For example, he is married, but these other women at work are all over him for some reason (some of them are a little persistent) and i think it must be a little hard for his wife to trust him. As an aquarius, i would be a little upset if my husband “accidentally” cheated on me because he couldn’t say ‘no’ and wanted to “be nice” to someone:)

  39. @fairjustice That’s pretty rough. LOL

  40. its a secretApril 18, 2010 at 2:11 pm

    im now with my boyfriend who is a cancer man and im an Aquarius and he is very sweet, super romantic, and always wants me too be happy, at the moment i cant see any negativity apart from the moodiness, he can go from being extremal happiness to getting moody but that’s it. he is so sweet, and this zodiac dialogue has given me a better idea on what he wants and needs. thank you x

  41. fairjusticeApril 13, 2010 at 8:49 am

    To dear “teddy”
    I advice you to marry both and maybe find couple more different signs. lol How are you a one woman man if you;re in with both and have a hard time deciding?
    As for Aqua girl as I am myself I doubt she’ll stay with an indecisive man. Don’t know about Taurean though. If you can’t make a choice between 2 close to you persons, astrology as abstract as it is would do it for you like “rock, paper, scissors” 🙂

  42. i m dating 2 women-actualy,i plan on marrying 1 of the two;i m a cancer,july 4th,the two ladies are Aquarius&Taurus:i m rather scared of the latter’s character qualities;i hear[correct me,if i m wrong]they are headstrong,too independent,&none too emotional:i m a one woman man-&if i have to use Horoscope advise to decide my life partner,to ensure stability,well-jeez!i WILL!pls,tell me-whom i should go for?do i need to be scared of marrying my acquarian girl-or the taurean?

  43. @SP
    Thanks for the great feedback and enjoy your beautiful relationship.

  44. Hi. This brings loving tears to my eyes and so much joy to my soul. Yes this combination does rock. Everyone’s right usually, there’s so much doom and gloom for this combo.

    Thanks Nancy you rock!

  45. @degree

    Yes, this combination rocks!

  46. Thank you so much for this outlook. I have read so much doom and gloom about Aquarius/Cancer relationships, but they never rang true to my relationship. This fits us to a “t”. Thanks again.

  47. Hi…you gave me some sugar for my salty soil. lol
    As an Aqua myself this combination sounds more promising than any other 🙂
    I wish I could show this to my Cancer man who’s still undecided about our so called “friend-relationship” lol Would be good to show him how many other “statuses” we could have besides just being friends 🙂
    Thanks for the refreshing info!

  48. hi! thanks a has really helped me… i was very confused whether i shud go ahead n give it a try bcoz of some initial is so positive n this is the 1st positive info on cancer aquarius couple thanku so much

  49. You’re very welcome. Thanks for stopping by the site.

  50. Hi, just to say thanks for your sweet and positive outlook on this star sign combination.
    xx Sonja

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