1. Tanya

    Im a cancer woman an in love with cancer man he’s my king im his queen what a perfect match?

  2. crabbygabby

    I am a Cancer girl and I have known this Cancer boy for about 4 years with a 2-3 year gap of actually forgetting about him. At first, when we met each other I knew I would fall very hard for this guy, and I felt in his eyes that he felt the same way for me. I knew he liked me, but maybe I’ve been too pushy and he pulled away. I just overdid it. And I am sorry for that. I can talk for years about us. Several months ago we met again (suprisingly on a nearby mountain) and I saw the awkwardness in his eyes again (saying ‘Oh, I still like you, there’s still something , but I won’t show it, and will keep living my life as before’). I offered to him several weeks later to go together. We went, and my feelings awoke again. poor me ๐Ÿ™‚ He’s really insecure and is still pulling away, alsthough I see him how sometimes he’s abandoning his ‘protective den’ and reaching cautiously towards me. So, as I said it’s been months (3-4) and things go painfully slowly. Last time I went to h is place and stayed there for several hours and when I left, he walked me to the door and the ‘goodbye’ look in his eyes was the most heart-warming and ice-metling I’ve ever seen for these 4 years I knew him. Then I knew – he’s hooked, but is too proud to admit it by showing actual interest. During these 4 months we met about 4 times, so it’s normal for things to be slow, but he rejects all my propositions. It’s weird, but he’s obviously very careful, yet interested in me. He was the first to call me in New Year’s Eve, when actually he calls/chats with me very very rarely. He cares… I know, But I have to have lots of patience. And I will have it, because I truly love him, understand him and he’s the sweetest person I’ve ever met. I saw him in one rare mood – calm, a little down, maybe even secretly sensitive (that last time I talked about), talking quietly… gosh, I wanted to hug him and stay like that for hours. He really evokes such feelings in me. I know it may be a lost cause (because I’ll be leaving the country in 8 months) and I may get even deeper in my (and his) feelings and both end up hurt, but I can’t admit defeat. I want to know I gave it a second chance (after the first time I made some mistakes). Maybe he would want to come with me ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Princess ciara

    Awww that’s so romantic ARTHUR MORRIS ima cancer and I want a cancer male other signs (libra leo scorp Pisces caps) used me, I loved them fully but got 20per cent back, I just want love ????

  4. Arthur Morris

    I’m a Cancer male with a quirky birth chart, a grid of fire and earth swirling around the water. And after a long time scuttling around, I can say with all the certainty I’ve ever known… I’m in love with a Cancer woman.

    I’ve spent so long being disappointed by other people. Communities that don’t stick together, men that destroy instead of protect, women that prey on others shamelessly. I’m surrounded by others, but I’ve felt completely alone in thought and spirit. Astrology or not, I know myself – I’m designed to stand strong shoulder to shoulder with others. Not only have I felt betrayed, I’ve felt like the ground I stand on has been taken away. What’s a patriot without a country? What’s a body without a soul? Just an empty husk.

    She changed my world. She showed me the thing I felt was missing from my entire life – something worth everything to protect. She showed me who she was, behind all the smokescreens and shells. She showed me how to build hope and courage instead of clinging to it as it fails.

    I look into her eyes and see something so familiar, but so different. For the first time, I don’t feel threatened and challenged by someone else looking at me. She’s nothing but soothing, down to the deepest parts of the self. Parts I didn’t even know about. And if there’s a smile curled underneath that gaze… I feel higher in the air than I have climbing any mountain, flying in any plane.

    I love her moods. When they’re high, she’s more fun and encouraging than anything. When they’re low, I can do what I was made for without fear – wrap her in my arms and wash away all doubt. I’ve never been able to control my own emotions as well as I can with her.

    I’m still young, idealistic and utterly foolish. Bitter men and women who’ve accepted the sad state of the world are peering down their noses at every word I write, just waiting for it to come crashing down. People who’ve failed at love or never experienced it will laugh in the face of the single most important thing I have to say, but I can say it from deeper inside than I’ve ever gone.

    I love you. Beyond your body, your mind, your soft giggle and your hard outer shell. I love you for the barest part of your soul, and I’d gladly give my life to keep you safe. You’ll probably never read these words, and even if you do, will you know who it’s from?… But it doesn’t matter. You’ll hear them from my lips soon enough.

    We can discuss Cancer + Cancer logically, rationally, intellectually here… but all of those words completely miss the point. All I know is that I’ve found something that motivates me to be a better man than I’ve ever dreamed, and it comes in the form of a Lunar maiden.

    Best wishes, fellow Crabs. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  5. Darshita singh

    My husband is somewhat like described here. But is there any way to make him feel that i am too like him and would never leave him…if just be a little kind to me.

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  7. mandy

    I’m a cancer woman. I hv dated 2 cancer men in d past.one word..terrible! It never worked out.when I started showing my love for them they become annoyin. One was a womaniser and the other a workaholic.
    They were loving bt terrible nd hrtless wen they want 2 be.
    I’m currently dating a scopio nd it has been great.
    Cancer nd cancer relatnshp is unreal

  8. anonymous

    ya true, you should be feel secure in a relationship else it’s a waste, but remember one thing, if you want security you have to give other person the same ๐Ÿ™‚

  9. Cancer Girl

    In my opinion this was a complete waste of time, cancers are one of the zodiacs most romantic sings. It is true that as a cancer woman I seek security, to feel protected, but NOT financially for god sakes! If I ever marry it will be for love, not for how much cash he has in his wallet!

    One word :BS!

  10. cancer sign lover

    i agreee with most but im a senstive female,and i am not so emotional as you guys may explain:) i lovee to laugh and is a really funnny person and i dont need people to help me all the time,i am good at reading poeoples emotions but at times i can be slightly wrong.i think that this relates to some cancer sign but not all…….:):):) peace out lol

  11. Teace

    I’m a cancer woman and dating a cancer man. I will say this. The relationship works well when we drop our guards and listen to one another & TRUST. But, one thing is for sure, Cancer is a beautiful sign, but when we are bad, we can be real bad and that’s not just sometimes, this will happen if we have securities that have been scarred at an eary age from not being or feeling the love and attention we needed. If we don’t get it, we will alway keep a sheild up to protect ourselves and that don’t come across well. But, I love me and wish the best for the rest.

  12. Richard

    well im a cancer myself b day is july 15th ive never been with a cancer woman but if the storys are true about the cancer woman being the same as the male then i need you cancer woman ive been alone now for a very long time.I feel so much love for beutifull woman but they all seem to only want money.is there any woman anymore who is just interested in me and not what i have?i want a life with someone so bad it hurts to think about it.if your a beutifull cancer woman and want to be with a man who needs to be loved im a cancer and im always here for you just email me at redeyebuy@yahoo.com with who you are or what you want from life im so looking forward to hearing from you

  13. Lydia

    Am a Cancerian female. Dated a Cancer man for a year(my first bf) but went our separate ways a month ago. Mind you he had the same b’day as me. He’d be ‘turned on’ one moment, then next he’s quiet, but we weren’t emotional? at all int he relationship…

    We didn’t fight at all, which was good. One stage we became intimate and i really enjoyed the moments of him touching him and vice versa. The moment we touched, i wanted to stay in the moment…so right..

    Wish we would communicate more of our thoughts / feelings with each other frequently…i’ll still have occasional thoughts of him, but try to keep it hidden deep inside..

    Now i am dating a libra and it doesn’t feel the same….

  14. cancerguy

    i’m a cancer man who engaged to a cancer woman. we’ve been together for 3 years and overall things have been well. occasionally we clash over insignificant things, tempers flare, but come next morning we dont even remember what the conflict was about and all is forgiven and forgotten.

    as far as our personalities go we both come from stable families. in my youth i had absolutely no patience and got angry over the smallest things. as i matured i became a much more patient person although my patience is not unlimited. i’ve always been a stubborn person and still am very much so. i’d like to think that i have a very strong grip on my moodiness and when i get to the point where i’m about to let my emotions take control, i withdraw and let my self cool down. in arguments i always stay cool and collected.

    my fiance was a very moody person in her youth from what she told me. being a female she is more susceptible to her emotions but has been doing a good job of keeping them under control for the most part. she is also stubborn but nowhere nearly as much as i am. she is a very caring and generous person and would do anything to help her friends, family and even people she barely knows.

    degrees of romance:
    i’m not a romantic person by nature yet i like to do what i can to keep my fiance happy and have that warm fuzzy feeling when i’m with her. my fiance is extremely romantic and gets mushy frequently. i’m also very analytical person so for me the “business” side is partially true for me. not so for my fiance. she trusts me to take care of the logistics.

    degrees of passion:
    we’ve always been very passionate with each other since we became a couple. we’re generous with each other in the bedroom as well.

    degrees of friendship:
    we have a deep friendship and almost a psychic connection. we know what the other person is thinking most of the time can easily complete each other’s sentences.

    degree of marriage:
    we’re not there yet.

    progression of relationships:
    we had our fair share of ups and downs. overall the relationship has always been on stable footing and has been able to sail through the worst of the storms. i can honestly say that i don’t have any secret agenda. i deeply care for my fiance and want her to be happy. there have never been any bartering games. i have given her an unconditional promise of love, care and security.

    she has always been trying to test my commitment and my other qualities. i can almost always see through the tests and just find them amusing. for me actions speak louder than words so there is no need for me to do any tests. there has never been any “trying to find out how bad they can be”. we trust each other completely.

    i’m not going to add too much detail here. all i can say is things couldn’t be any better. we’re both very generous in bed and don’t ask for anything in return. the physical act is just as important as the emotional things going on. preferring “eating or smoking” to having sex is just plain silly.

    good luck to all the other cancercancer couples

  15. CancermalefromCanuckistan

    LOL….normally, us Cancer males are empathetic but I enjoyed reading David’s story somewhat in a sadistic way. In a similar situation as David’s broken home, I’m having an affair with a married Cancer female who as David’s -ex, is unhappy with her husband.

    So, David, tough luck man, please accept my few words of reconciliation on behalf of your ex’s current partner as I closely identify with his cancerian mindset.

    1. First, don’t think the cancer male is happy about cuckolding you. More likely, he’s feeling guilty about it. We cancerians may be selfish but usually don’t want what is not rightfully ours, unless it’s our only last available option. He has tons of sympathy for your situation, only to be exceeded by the love he has for your -ex.

    Believe me, if she were any other zodiac sign, this cancer male would have walked out of her life because he wouldn’t want to hurt YOU. But, with cancer females, the whole complexion changes because these are two creatures so intertwined in mutual empathy that they just don’t want to let go of each other. You’re standing in the way between him and his true love which he finally found after all these years in his life, so better brace for a fight. I don’t really care how close you were to your -ex, right now I’m in love with her and won’t let her go.

    – unless she wants to go back to you! In that case, I will gladly accept her decision, although with a heavy heart but even after that, we’ll always remain good friends and you have to accept the close bond forged between me and your -ex. It cannot be eliminated.

    2. You complain that cancer women are manipulative, have unreasonable demands and it can be tiresome to pamper their emotional side 100% of the time. Yes, they lie, betray and cheat. The only reason I get along so well with my current cancer lady we both have NO DEMANDS and NO EXPECTATIONS of each other. And, I never get tired of her whinging, complaining and manipulative tears – au contraire, I enjoy every bit of it because that’s just the mirror reflection of my own person, fills me with amusement and delight to be with a person who understands me so intuitively.

    Also, we rarely fight or argue and at the end of the day, simply end up cuddling with each other. Everytime she likes to talk about her -ex (she still misses him), I just ask her not to bore me more than I can tolerate on that subject. She can endlessly go on and on and on, but drops mention of her -ex after spotting my insecurity and sensitivity.

    Also, two cancers together can be thick as thieves and have this childish mischievous streak governing our passions.

    3. Whoever said sex between two cancers is vapid and dull must get a reality check. Our sex is simply divine, we just don’t want to let go of each other!!!

  16. morgan

    well i am a cancer woman trying to date a cancer man. my family introduced us to one another and i havent been able to get him off my mind. he is very loyal, his reputation speaks nothing but good about him, i just feel like being a cancer also maybe he wants more excitment in his life. im shy and reserved about how i feel about him and sometimes i feel as if he wants a woman who is spunky about how she feels and jumps all over him.. maybe im paranoid, but he never texts me first or anything, i always initiate the convos now when it used to be him – is cancer and cancer really hard to get off the ground?? why?

  17. Yves

    I am a female cancer and dating a cancer man. We are new in the relationship (4 months). However, in that time we have done great things together. We are both very business minded – I am a business onwner, he is an attorney. We both attend church regularily and are both single parents. Our lives cross and connected in many ways both good and confusing. He mentions all the time that we are just alike and just laughs about it. The connection we have makes most people think we are married – we finish each other sentence and add on where the other left off. However, MOODY yes! He says I pouts. Him on the other hand wines. To us that is an indication that a need is not being met. We try to keep each other happy. In short, life is too short to complain on what is not happening well, make the best of the relationship and if you can’t, well, keep it moving and let go.

  18. Jen

    I am a cancer woman, my boyfriend is a cancer male. Our love is deep and passionate. So most of what is said here is not true. But it was fun to read, I just don’t think signs determine who people are. Environment and culture play very big parts in personality traits. He is Armenian and I am Mexican, we have been together for a very long time and we still can’t stand being apart from each other for too long. And it still feels “too good to be true” even though its been years we still feel like we did the first time we met.

  19. Dev

    I am a Cancer man and I was with a Cancer woman. I can truly say it is to much of a good thing for sure. I thought both of us being Cancers we would understand each others feelings and what not. I am on the same page with David, she was very manipulative, lied, secretive the whole 9 yards. I was in a time in my life where I was ready to be open and real in a relationship instead of having my mate wonder what I was truly feeling. Though she is a very loving person and had/has deep love me, it did not work out well at all. We agrued so much and never truly connected like we could have. There was no trust in our relationship and its impossible for me to be with a person I cant trust.

    She had a really tough exterior, she would never cry in front of me and always acted like she could do everything on her own, She had this I dont need your help attitude. But the funny thing is come to find out really it was the total opposite, she needed me but was to stubborn to be real and show her true feelings until it was to late . I always tried to accommodate and submit to what she wanted, and it only made things worse because once I started to stand up for what I thought was right she was not use to that, she was use to always having things her way and she would do it subtle and passively.

    Now that I no longer want to be with her she is finally opening up and trying to change, but it is to late because I tried forever to make things work and once I come to the conclusion its cant I am done and keep it moving.

    To anyone reading this I would say dont date cancer if you are a cancer if that cancer did not have a solid foundation as a child, find out first! Because if they didnt they cant control their feelings its like an emotional Tsunami ! And you being a cancer also makes it worse, you will take things more deeply that they do and like a hurt cancer you snap back at them and its not a good thing

  20. silly

    v both r cancerians….n i met this guy online n decided to meet,v met n there was magic,v cud connect so well,i mmean this guy simply swept me off my feet,our thoughts,ideas,wavelength everything matched.
    n this guy is soo sensitive n i loved this thing abt him,u know sum1 who cud really take care of u….
    but then as usual i decided to tell him abt my past,so told him everything right from the scratch n now i have this fear of loosing him….damn i love this guy soo much.i jus wish dat i shdnt hav told him anything…….cause i thought he is the one who could connect all the dots n our equation jus matched…
    plz dnt leave me for my honesty.

  21. Cancer Baby

    Wau – not really sure what to say about all these comments. I guess every cancer is different. I believe it has alot to do with your upbringing and your enviroment. I just met a cancer man. His bday is July 1 – he is 31. I am July 18 – I am 32. We met online. We are both very attracted to each other physically.. but not just physically – mentally we are attracted to each other. We think alike.. not sure if thats a good thing or bad thing.. we both feel we dont want to take things fast, because we dont want to ruin it. The first time we met, was via web cam.. i felt more comfortable that way. I can only say that when we saw each other via webcam.. it was like we knew each other. We felt the same way, we like the same things, we have definite compatability and the chemistry was out of this world… After staring at each other via webcam for about an hour.. we decided the hell with the cam, lets meet. I love that he is so random and spontaneous -Just like me! ๐Ÿ™‚ So we met up at the grocery store.. When we got off the car it was like we knew each other already.. We walked inside the store. We talked and then we sat in his car and talked for a bit. It was really nice talking to someone who actually understands you. He was very respectful and we ended the night with a kiss. Very passionate kisser if I may add. LOL When we said goodbye – – it was weird.. neither of us wanted to say goodbye. So far so good. He even tells me he has deleted his account from the dating site.. me too! ๐Ÿ˜› I dont know.. maybe this is the one ive been searching all my life. i mean Ive dated just about every sign except cancer… this is my first cancer.. we will see how it goes. Difference between all the other signs and cancer has to be.. there is this feeling of like we are unseperable.. almost like magnets. LOL I dont know – I am the most compatible with Scorpio but scorpio is too dominant for me.. LOL right now I feel like is too good to be true.. But you know what. If is good – then so be it.. we deserve good and we deserve to be happy. <3

  22. Reena

    I m not so sure whether u r right or not.
    M in love with a cancerian guy & I myself is also cancerian. He is lovely, caring and honest about his views. We love to be together all the time.

  23. cancer-to-the-hilt

    “When it’s over there will two infantile “victims” trying to claim un-responsibility for the whole thing.” I can surely vouch for this statement. We both deny responsibility.

    If anybody want to know my side:
    1. She did not tell her family about our marriage for 3 years – that drove me first.
    2. I heard only negative things about her work; she was a flirt with her coworkers!
    3. She did not call me for 10 days on a trip – in spite of four months of my time I spent on making that trip possible.
    4. She would not let me eat breakfast at 11.30am

    Be careful with Cancerians (both men and women)… double the dose is bad. I am a Cancer by both sun and moon sign — so that makes my shell much more harder….

    LOL – Have fun! Happy New Year Wishes for 2011…

  24. crabby

    You guys are scaring me. I am a Cancer woman and just started dating a cancer man (3months). I know that I am moody. But I am also super nice. What I have found out in past relationships is that my partner determines my mood. I always said I wanted someone who was very loving and affectionate. One thing that I have noticed is that maybe you should be careful what you ask for. this guy just goes way overboard with the mushiness and affection. He drives me bonkers sometimes. He is very accomodating but Im afraid he is not manly enouph for me. He never says No to me and that is not an attractive trait. I make a lot more money than him and it already is creating a dark cloud over out fairly new relationship. Money is what broke up my 1st marriage and not quite sure the same thing will not take place again.

  25. jasmine

    hmm. I am a cancer woman married to a cancer man and have to say that I havent had any problems for the last ten years. We are both pretty stubborn, but we are not emotional wrecks or anything like that! Goodness, i was shocked to read of how negative cancers are being portrayed here! He loves his family, and is passionate about finances and work. I am romantic and artsy. But we can be down to earth and ‘normal’. I think these are all different personality traits and not all related to your sun sign

  26. Mary

    Hey I am a Cancer woman who for years have been trying to find love unconditionally. And then I did in a Cancer Man who I truly believe is my soulmate but we are seperated have been for one year out of seven year relationship. I just saw him for the holidays and which I we do every year but now I truly feel like he’s not because this past week I found out some things that I had dreamt about was true. So really Cancer to Cancer could only work if the money was right!!!! And trust was good!! Other than that it’s a Barn Burner

  27. hailtothecrab

    Are two crabs really too much of a good thing?

    I somewhat agree with this. All of my lady crab friends are extremely easy to talk to, it’s almost as if I’m talking to a female version of myself. Always on the same wavelength. I can talk to them about a whole lot of nothing and they would be entertained, and vice versa.

    Mentally, we get each other. However, trying to escalate this to the “next level” is where things begin to get complicated. Even though we’re both passionate/loving water signs, nothing seems to ever get off the ground, even though there’s something there. When it comes to romance/passion/sexual attraction I feel much more of this with Scorpio and, to a lesser extent, Pieces.

    If anything, I find this fascinating. I don’t avoid cancer women when pursuing love interests and I definitely wouldn’t mind meeting one who could render my experience null.

  28. Junegirl

    David, another Cancer lady here, I am coming out of a marriage of 18 years with an Aquarius and let me tell you, he couldn’t get away quick enough. It is heartbreaking to watch something you have worked so hard for walk away. I found myself many times manipulating situations just to get him to spend time with me, to see me, it was emotionally exhausting, so I stopped trying. I think the insecurity stems from a lack of maturity and lack of self love, speaking just for myself, but some may just never get there. In retrospect, I try really hard to filter my feelings, so I don’t strike out or speak my mind to harshly and end up throwing a tantrum. As hard as it has been to admitt to myslef, I wish I knew then what I have learned over these last few years and how to apply it to the marriage. Good luck.

  29. dani

    To david….I felt ur man and I will tell u y…I am a cancer woman..and like others I too believe that sun signs only gives certain traits to indivisuals but some are more extreme then other…but I was the saaaaaame way as ur wife…to a certain extent…my husband was a sagitarius and I knew he loved me with all his heart and I did use him as a punching bag…I never wanted to hurt him…but to make a long story short he left me…but unlike ur wife I realized he was all I wanted and that I treated him terrible….I CHANGED love for him took that cancerian straight out of me…I’m no longer selfish I’ve learned its not all about me and I’m so glad…so now we are working things out and have just started dating again..the spark is coming back….I want so bad for him to know I’ve changed because there’s no way for him to really know that…and I know he’s scared but ill wait as long as it takes for him…thanx for ur story it was very touching and soooo real..I wish u the best of luck

  30. coco

    oh my goodness, you huys are kinda scaring me!! i’m a cancer women, and now im dating a cancer man. i feel like he could be my soul mate. r u saying that it is not true?? i don’t agree with everything that was said, but i do understand it. one thing i will say is i do beleive your own personal growth makes a BIG DIF in how you relate to any person.

  31. selena

    i have been n a relationship with a cancer man for 3yrs and I am a cancer woman. this is dead on aside from the fact that HE is the emotional wreck in our situation. He is so mushy sometimes it drives me INSANE. I do firmly believe that we are as bad as we can be and try to be adorble and loving at the same time. Him and I both.

  32. Jaz

    I’m a Cancer woman who chooses to stay away from Cancer men. Mainly because I can’t deal with a man who has the same mood swings as me. It was just too much to deal with. If I’m going thru something I need my man to hold me & comfort me. Not look over at him & he trippin too!! Cancers & Cancers yes indeed too much of a good thing!

  33. Concerned Cancerian

    I’m a very stable crab, I’ve been single most of my life…but just as I thought I was starting to like this Aries guy, I realize he’s insane. I think there’s more to a person’s sun sign truly…I’m a worker, I try to keep things tidy, but I’m very busy most of the time, and I’m drug/alcohol free. I notice that cancerians never seem to fit a specific type of personality or array of traits…I also don’t want kids, but I do love animals. Like I said there’s more than just the sun sign. A sun sign does not define a person, it may only give them certain traits.

  34. Umh Jung-Hwa

    I agree with Anon. I am Cancer woman. Even my ex and I was separated, and I got a new life and partner, I still missing my ex because he was my first love. It’s hard for Cancer to let their love one go away even sometimes Cancerian might be egoistic. Cancers are ego enough but we are very loyal to our partner. You should think again and again; what is your mistake? Good luck!

  35. Anon

    To David, I am in tears, over flowing with emotions (yeah you guessed it, a cancer rep here), wow, I cannot blame you for hugging your ex wife or ask you to go back to this woman that you seems to love very much still. I can only empathise with the situation. But you should know one thing for certain, she is missing you like crazy. She is missing you intense, humour, passionate, generous, personality. Yeah, she might be with a another man, but its you she is thinking about you every time her mind wander, itโ€™s you she wish she were sharing every happy sad moment with. Iโ€™m sure she hasn’t let go of your memory just yet, she is just rebelling at the moment. Trying to get back at you with the cancer man. If you stick yourself in the middle long enough, you may be suprise with the turn of event; Trust is always the issue with cancer and Scorpio. Keep your own claws on her.

  36. David

    Just divorced(after twelve years) from a cancer woman. I am Scorpio(39)
    she is cancer(37) three children 6,9,12. She hung on for dear life. I tried to understand her moodiness and fits of rage. The fact that I kept coming back for more(trying to learn/understand her), gave her the illusion that I was her emotional punching bag. She never took the blame, always waited untill I admitted fault(before she would), was a hoarder, messy, scatter brained, deceptive, manipulative and honestly, in twelve years- only said, “I’m sorry”…….maybe two dozen times. The above mentioned info that this blog was correct. She is a caring mother( however misdirected). Frugel with the finances, awkward in sexual situations(had that “I’m doing this for you” look in her eyes), was secretive to the point of projecting blame, and had a hard time leaving the marriage, untill she found another to care for emotional baggage. Oct. 2009 we seperated-
    Nov, Dec started talking online with a cancer man in California. She lives here in Tucson az. As of January 24, 2010- she has flown out, driven out, hosted him at our house( I was not there ). All under false pretences.
    During the marriage- she was a slob, still smokes, obsessive over me, rarely cooked and was introverted towards social settings, childrens schooling and was always starting petty arguements with people, relying
    on me to rescue her. And a terrible driver.
    Now the situation is unfolding just the way that she has planned. And she
    always planned ahead when she felt threatened!!! She has stayed with this mans at his house intimately, with his daughter in tow, pretended to like his family(she has three kids, how could she possibly have time for his? Right?), dominated his time over these past two-three months( causing his 15yr old daughter to vent and rage about it on Twitter.
    The ex, after being caught, exclaimed-” he is a beautiful person, he has been dumped on and his family is so screwed up, because of the way his wife left him. He shows me love……”. Well if a cancer man shows love to the detriment of his own close family and is willing to fall under the spell of a cancer woman, who has decieved him about her own life. This pairing is doomed. You can see, whatever emotional connection they have, for eachother- is so strong, they will both stop at nothing to get what they both think they deserve. They will ignore, use as playing chips the children to create the dillusion of both being stable parents, hide aspects of the daily and private life( divorce not even final ) and you material objects to bolster there own image. This relationship will be constant treadwheel of the blame game. But the question is, who will get to lay the blame first- we all know that’s the most important thing to the crab….. ” you did it first “. ” I only said that because you said it first, if you apologize- I’ll let you make it up to me”. How bout this one….
    ” you don’t make me feel loved”. Well babe, if you would come out of your shell, stop playing the victim and understand my feelings…
    You’d see that I FEEL more love for you than anyone. I have a capacity
    to understand your words….. But you must allow my feelings to penetrate
    your heart. As a scorpio, I can undeniably confirm that I have the ability to endure more pain and hardship than any other sign. I find myself in situations where I am able to be cavalier. The cancer man came to visit her( at our house w/ his daughter). I got the call two days before he arrived. Over the phone she said, ” if you love me and you want to see me happy, you’ll take the kids this weekend”. ” I have a blank is coming here w/ his daughter and I know that you don’t want the kids around that, but if you can’t- they’ll be fine here”. She knew full well that I would never allow my kids to bare witness to this shamefull event. And yes, it was a sexual weekend for them. You can see that the level of manipulation runs deep, for them both. Do you think he would have obstained from sex, just because my kids were there? Nope- he slept w/ her, in a bed I used to share for twelve years. And somehow- they were both able to enjoy themselves mentally and physically. Selfish to the core. When these to are in love- they will lay waste to their surroundings with regard for collateral damage. This does really sound like like sour grapes. But, honestly- I’ve put myself in the middle of this situation to monitor my family- absorbed the mightiest of heartaches, all to gain an understanding of why things went wrong. Turns out, she lured me with her charm, missled downplayed the fact that her heart wasn’t ready for love, gained access to my emotional side and waited it out to see how much she could
    take from someone. Nagged for twelve years, demanding sacrifice. Only to claim it wasn’t love, even after I opened a vein. A typical cancer response statement ” if you cared or loved me, youd admit that your wrong!!!”- “sweatheart, yes I’m wrong, I’m sorry. I made a mistake”
    ” yeah right, your only saying that because I told you to, you don’t mean it.” folks, if I’m not 100% correct about that…. Please post otherwise.
    When it was good, it was the best. I’ve felt love from many people.
    Sagitarious, Gemini, Scorpio, Capricorns….. But never had the connection
    or the amount of devotion that my love for cancer had. She was faithfully, loyal, consistant, gainfully employed ironed clothing loved her home, all of this was beautiful. But it only took one small mistake to set the ball in motion. It was an issue of trust. She caught my ex wife hugging me at a family football game. Instantly, the cancer felt betrayed and alone. I was consistantly scrutinized for years following that day. Our marriage ended the instant that happened. Word to the wise, if you want to keep your crab….. Keep her close, never at arms length. Thanks for reading and good luck out there.

  37. dEANA

    I feeel that is so true. thanks for all the insightful info. this info is needed. i feel i am with enough info to move forward in my relationship. keep up the good work.

  38. Cancergirl81

    Completely on and completely off…do a little more research on two cancers…this read was a waste of time

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