Famous Cancer-Cancer Couples:
Sylvester Stallone and Brigette Nielsen, Dan Akroyd and Donna Dixon
Sometimes when two signs get together, it’s too much of a good thing. In the case of Cancer and Cancer, however, there are some real advantages. This it because the way a man uses Cancer energy is very different from the way a woman does. In both cases nurturing is involved but the object is different. The Cancer woman is among the most home-loving of creatures but, ironically, she tends to run her home like a business. She is often found looking at her home like a profit-center. She is the gal most likely to clip coupons and store them in a jar that she took with her when she left her mother’s home. You can see that she combines tender qualities in her approach to marriage. It’s the same with the Cancer man. He will nurture as much as she does, but what he will nurture is his wife, their mutual investments, their retirement fund, and both sets of parents. When two Cancers marry, there is a wide circle of caring created. Of course children are included as well.
How to Attract a Cancer Man as a Cancer Woman:
Chances are your paths are crossing through one of the vast family connections that exist between the two of you if not from a direct introduction by a family member. You can build on that opportunity. Having the support of relatives is so beneficial in bringing people together. It is best if — from the beginning — you treat his family like they were your own family. You will tend to anyway, but in this relationship, it’s a real plus. By all means refer to your great cooking, your homemaking skills, and elude heavily to how well you take care of your pets, children, friends, boss, employees, etc. You can be very comfortable showing your feelings around this man. It can draw him to you if he sees tears in your eyes over some sad story, or something that bruises your delicate heart. Try not to ask him how much money he makes on the first date.
How to Attract a Cancer Woman as a Cancer Man:
Show your protectiveness right away. Open the doors, walk on the outside of the sidewalk (ready to throw your cape on the mud puddles if necessary), carry the groceries into the house from the car, make sure the door is locked when you go to bed for the evening, and as soon as you can, make an allusion to your “plans for the future” and by that I mean exclusively the financial situation. This woman, who looks so much like a little powder puff, is interested in marriage for one reason and one reason only — securing a financial future for herself and her children. That is her very definition of love.
Degree of Romance:
This is more like a business meeting than a romance. Each one is trying to ascertain the possibility of future security.
Degree of Passion:
None. Unless you start talking about splitting the pot. Then the greedy little Cancer monster – gimme, gimme, gimme, mine, mine, mine appears with a passionate vengeance.
Degree of Friendship:
The connection between these two is a little tight to call friendship. These water signs will create a bond which precludes the detachment and disinterest so necessary to maintain an arm’s length relationship. They will have transferred something between the two of them which has become non-negotiable. You might say that friendship ends where need begins.
Degree of Marriage:
There is a strong enough bond to create a classic co-dependent relationship. The transferences of needs is so great that they are likely to feel they cannot live without one another. There will be many levels of exchanges — money, sex, comfort, security, belonging, “the future” — all of these things will have been bartered for ad nauseum as each tries to lock the other one into an incontrovertible arrangement that benefits him or herself individually. You haven’t been squeezed until you’ve been squeezed by a Cancer.
Progression of Relationship:
The relationship will follow a secret agenda wherein each Cancer tries to secure a hold on the other before giving ground. There is an unbelievably entangled negotiation going on behind the seemly harmless dating scene. It runs something like this — If I tell you I love you will you marry me … if you marry me will you give me security … if you give me security will you promise never to take it away …. And then there is the endless testing for unconditionality between these two insecure, sometimes neurotic, individuals. They become like two little children trying to find out how “bad” they can be and still be loveable and adorable. Therefore the way they date may be a mystery to all outsiders but it follows the revealed game plan.
Sex can be more of a commodity than with many others. It goes like this: If I have sex with you will you (1) take care of me, (2) provide for me, (3) love me forever, (4) love me unconditionally, (5) take care of all my needs, (6) be nice to my mother — etc., etc. The physical act of sex is far less important than the emotional things going on. This is completely understood at some level by both parties, and with them — it is okay. As a matter of fact, many Cancers are so oral they would rather eat or smoke than have sex — as far as satisfying basic needs. Sometimes this relationships becomes sexless as it evolves into a mommy-daddy pattern of caring and gaining weight.
When It’s Over:
When it’s over there will two infantile “victims” trying to claim un-responsibility for the whole thing. Each one will turn to his or her own mother for comfort and understanding and the mothers will probably demand a pound of flesh on their behalf.