Comments on: Cancer Man and Cancer Woman Compatibility

By: shaj2906

shaj2906 — Wed, 18 Apr 2012 10:15:38 +0000

I am a cancerian and recently came out of a 7 month relationship with a fellow cancerian man who was born on the same day as me (29th June), from the get go I figured him to be a very different type of cancerian than I had ever met. This proved to be my downfall, from the secretiveness, the lies, manipulation, control, jealousy and out and out abrupt anger, I couldnt get away quick enough. He constantly argued with me over pathetic things that didnt warrant an argument, as time went on, he would fight with me over something that I did (up until now, I cannot understand why), punished me by having no communication and being cold and then accepted me back like nothing had happened after 2 weeks.
I got used to his controlling ways, constant barrage of phones, messages, emails and so forth, the wanting to know where I was every minute of the day, even going as far as accusing me of acting ‘funny’ when I went for lunch for 15 minutes too long at work.
Myself being a very headstrong and independant woman and previously coming out of a damaging 7 years relationship, I didnt want to go into something similar but rather move on and grow… How wrong I was… The arguments drove me insane especially when I felt like there was no pleasing him. When I asked for a break, I was told he didnt do them and when I left, he begged me back and used emotional blackmail and appealed to my soft side, which I fell for.
Finally after finding out that he lied about his name, his age and the number of children (he said that he had 1, it turned out the 3 was more the case) an argument about having a perfectly legitimate and innocent conversation ON FACEBOOK with someone who lives more then 1000 miles away, which culminated in him calling me fat, that I was rubbish in bed, that he had cheated on me, threats of physical violence, promises that he would break me physically, emotionally and mentally, I walked away. I was very wrong to think that he would let me go so easily, especially if he hadnt before. He begged and begged, pleaded, sent emails by the dozen, called me… Basically promised that he would never do it again and promised that he would show me what I meant to him and what I was worth… Ermmm, yeah right!! 2 days after this took place and everything got back to normal, another argument but this time about why I had used my ex boyfriend (3 years ago) 2 digit birthday as my phone password… The numbers 23… When I didnt lie and told the truth, it resulted in me being pinned and held on the bed very forcefully, both my phones being taken from me and thrown out of a 2 story house window.. One iphone 4 and one blackberry… I was already crying and upset because he hurt me but to throw my property that I worked so hard for and treat it with even less respect than he treated me was the last straw.
I packed all my things out of his house, as I was crying, he was laughing and said that I shouldnt have used my ex’s birthdate and that it wasnt so funny now was it, as I had laughed out of sheer frustration and uncomfortableness, as once I had told him what the numbers meant, I should have known what was coming.
Anywho, that was roughly 3 days ago and in total he has sent me roughly 80 emails. I have deleted him off Facebook, off my Blackberry and no longer wish to have any kind of contact with him as he has an extremely bad anger problem. I am glad that I am out of it as we broke up and got back together numerous times and the relationship was just too stifling and controlling for me.
Long story short, I dont think that all relationships consisting of 2 cancers are bad but I sure as hell have never come across something like this. Even as a cancer myself, I recognize my bad fault but I would never pin the blame on someone else for something that I did… Maybe I am just a different breed of cancerian!

Right now, I am in the midst of getting to know a Sag and Aquarius (fast, I know!!) and am very thankful and relieved for the space that they allow me….

Good luck to everybody out there, I hope this doesnt put anybody off!!

By: crystal

crystal — Tue, 20 Mar 2012 01:32:28 +0000

I honestly feel this was written by someone who is just hateful. I’ve read some of the others, and obviously this person has a real problem with cancers (perhaps they were in a cancer-cancer relationship that ended badly?) I actually dated a cancer, i am a cancer myself, and it was never like that. We are both money minded, but not enough that that’s all we cared about, nor that we didn’t care about each others feelings unless there was money involved. I mean would even suggest that? The biggest problem with cancers isn’t money arguments, but the fact that our protective natures and feelings of loyalty can backfire, bc you’re both anticipating hurt and both of you will be doing the same things, not even helping the situation. Next time, try no to be so biased in your writings. For people who don’t know better, they might actually take your advice. It can work, but it takes work. No certain signs makes relationships easier to deal with

By: SmartAir

SmartAir — Mon, 16 Jan 2012 22:13:36 +0000

I find this kind of funny. I’m an Aquarius and I would never date another Aquarius lol! If we’re both in our heads, aloof, and distant – would there ever be a relationship out of that? Doubtful. I’m with a Cancer man and I have asked him if he’d ever dated a Cancer woman. He said he’s had many attractions to Cancer women, but the fact that they both work the same, and are both stuck in their ways – it wouldn’t work out. I am able to bend rather nicely, so idk what it is, but either way, as an air sign, I’m having the best time with this water sun sign, but it’s really beneficial, to me, that he has a lot of air and fire in his chart. I think that’s the glue right there.

By: Kiwi Phoenix

Kiwi Phoenix — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 23:29:12 +0000

I totally disagree with most thoughts about a cancer man & a cancer woman. I think the commotion is great. we are both feisty people and we are both lovable. I think is depends on the individual. I love my cancer man. I think he has everything I need and we’re only five days apart from each other & i truly couldnt see my self with anyone other than Mr.July21…
Ms. July16

By: mandy

mandy — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 07:10:14 +0000

Hey
I’m a cancer woman. I hv dated 2 cancer men in d past.one word..terrible! It never worked out.when I started showing my love for them they become annoyin. One was a womaniser and the other a workaholic.
They were loving bt terrible nd hrtless wen they want 2 be.
I’m currently dating a scopio nd it has been great.
Cancer nd cancer relatnshp is unreal

By: jelly

jelly — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 11:42:03 +0000

hahahaha clever ………… ok can u let me know what kind of SECURITY are you looking for ??????????

By: anonymous

anonymous — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 11:36:58 +0000

sorry ………..deduct “be”

By: anonymous

anonymous — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 11:21:15 +0000

ya true, you should be feel secure in a relationship else it’s a waste, but remember one thing, if you want security you have to give other person the same

By: Cancer Girl

Cancer Girl — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 09:35:05 +0000

In my opinion this was a complete waste of time, cancers are one of the zodiacs most romantic sings. It is true that as a cancer woman I seek security, to feel protected, but NOT financially for god sakes! If I ever marry it will be for love, not for how much cash he has in his wallet!

One word :BS!

By: cancer sign lover

cancer sign lover — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 21:05:28 +0000

i agreee with most but im a senstive female,and i am not so emotional as you guys may explain:) i lovee to laugh and is a really funnny person and i dont need people to help me all the time,i am good at reading poeoples emotions but at times i can be slightly wrong.i think that this relates to some cancer sign but not all…….:):):) peace out lol

By: Teace

Teace — Tue, 13 Sep 2011 21:12:15 +0000

I’m a cancer woman and dating a cancer man. I will say this. The relationship works well when we drop our guards and listen to one another & TRUST. But, one thing is for sure, Cancer is a beautiful sign, but when we are bad, we can be real bad and that’s not just sometimes, this will happen if we have securities that have been scarred at an eary age from not being or feeling the love and attention we needed. If we don’t get it, we will alway keep a sheild up to protect ourselves and that don’t come across well. But, I love me and wish the best for the rest.

By: Richard

Richard — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 06:15:44 +0000

well im a cancer myself b day is july 15th ive never been with a cancer woman but if the storys are true about the cancer woman being the same as the male then i need you cancer woman ive been alone now for a very long time.I feel so much love for beutifull woman but they all seem to only want money.is there any woman anymore who is just interested in me and not what i have?i want a life with someone so bad it hurts to think about it.if your a beutifull cancer woman and want to be with a man who needs to be loved im a cancer and im always here for you just email me at redeyebuy@yahoo.com with who you are or what you want from life im so looking forward to hearing from you

By: Lydia

Lydia — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 13:10:53 +0000

Am a Cancerian female. Dated a Cancer man for a year(my first bf) but went our separate ways a month ago. Mind you he had the same b’day as me. He’d be ‘turned on’ one moment, then next he’s quiet, but we weren’t emotional? at all int he relationship…

We didn’t fight at all, which was good. One stage we became intimate and i really enjoyed the moments of him touching him and vice versa. The moment we touched, i wanted to stay in the moment…so right..

Wish we would communicate more of our thoughts / feelings with each other frequently…i’ll still have occasional thoughts of him, but try to keep it hidden deep inside..

Now i am dating a libra and it doesn’t feel the same….

By: cancerguy

cancerguy — Fri, 10 Jun 2011 03:26:00 +0000

i’m a cancer man who engaged to a cancer woman. we’ve been together for 3 years and overall things have been well. occasionally we clash over insignificant things, tempers flare, but come next morning we dont even remember what the conflict was about and all is forgiven and forgotten.

as far as our personalities go we both come from stable families. in my youth i had absolutely no patience and got angry over the smallest things. as i matured i became a much more patient person although my patience is not unlimited. i’ve always been a stubborn person and still am very much so. i’d like to think that i have a very strong grip on my moodiness and when i get to the point where i’m about to let my emotions take control, i withdraw and let my self cool down. in arguments i always stay cool and collected.

my fiance was a very moody person in her youth from what she told me. being a female she is more susceptible to her emotions but has been doing a good job of keeping them under control for the most part. she is also stubborn but nowhere nearly as much as i am. she is a very caring and generous person and would do anything to help her friends, family and even people she barely knows.

degrees of romance:
i’m not a romantic person by nature yet i like to do what i can to keep my fiance happy and have that warm fuzzy feeling when i’m with her. my fiance is extremely romantic and gets mushy frequently. i’m also very analytical person so for me the “business” side is partially true for me. not so for my fiance. she trusts me to take care of the logistics.

degrees of passion:
we’ve always been very passionate with each other since we became a couple. we’re generous with each other in the bedroom as well.

degrees of friendship:
we have a deep friendship and almost a psychic connection. we know what the other person is thinking most of the time can easily complete each other’s sentences.

degree of marriage:
we’re not there yet.

progression of relationships:
we had our fair share of ups and downs. overall the relationship has always been on stable footing and has been able to sail through the worst of the storms. i can honestly say that i don’t have any secret agenda. i deeply care for my fiance and want her to be happy. there have never been any bartering games. i have given her an unconditional promise of love, care and security.

she has always been trying to test my commitment and my other qualities. i can almost always see through the tests and just find them amusing. for me actions speak louder than words so there is no need for me to do any tests. there has never been any “trying to find out how bad they can be”. we trust each other completely.

sex:
i’m not going to add too much detail here. all i can say is things couldn’t be any better. we’re both very generous in bed and don’t ask for anything in return. the physical act is just as important as the emotional things going on. preferring “eating or smoking” to having sex is just plain silly.

good luck to all the other cancercancer couples

By: CancermalefromCanuckistan

CancermalefromCanuckistan — Wed, 08 Jun 2011 17:52:38 +0000

LOL….normally, us Cancer males are empathetic but I enjoyed reading David’s story somewhat in a sadistic way. In a similar situation as David’s broken home, I’m having an affair with a married Cancer female who as David’s -ex, is unhappy with her husband.

So, David, tough luck man, please accept my few words of reconciliation on behalf of your ex’s current partner as I closely identify with his cancerian mindset.

1. First, don’t think the cancer male is happy about cuckolding you. More likely, he’s feeling guilty about it. We cancerians may be selfish but usually don’t want what is not rightfully ours, unless it’s our only last available option. He has tons of sympathy for your situation, only to be exceeded by the love he has for your -ex.

Believe me, if she were any other zodiac sign, this cancer male would have walked out of her life because he wouldn’t want to hurt YOU. But, with cancer females, the whole complexion changes because these are two creatures so intertwined in mutual empathy that they just don’t want to let go of each other. You’re standing in the way between him and his true love which he finally found after all these years in his life, so better brace for a fight. I don’t really care how close you were to your -ex, right now I’m in love with her and won’t let her go.

- unless she wants to go back to you! In that case, I will gladly accept her decision, although with a heavy heart but even after that, we’ll always remain good friends and you have to accept the close bond forged between me and your -ex. It cannot be eliminated.

2. You complain that cancer women are manipulative, have unreasonable demands and it can be tiresome to pamper their emotional side 100% of the time. Yes, they lie, betray and cheat. The only reason I get along so well with my current cancer lady we both have NO DEMANDS and NO EXPECTATIONS of each other. And, I never get tired of her whinging, complaining and manipulative tears – au contraire, I enjoy every bit of it because that’s just the mirror reflection of my own person, fills me with amusement and delight to be with a person who understands me so intuitively.

Also, we rarely fight or argue and at the end of the day, simply end up cuddling with each other. Everytime she likes to talk about her -ex (she still misses him), I just ask her not to bore me more than I can tolerate on that subject. She can endlessly go on and on and on, but drops mention of her -ex after spotting my insecurity and sensitivity.

Also, two cancers together can be thick as thieves and have this childish mischievous streak governing our passions.

3. Whoever said sex between two cancers is vapid and dull must get a reality check. Our sex is simply divine, we just don’t want to let go of each other!!!

By: morgan

morgan — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 03:45:06 +0000

well i am a cancer woman trying to date a cancer man. my family introduced us to one another and i havent been able to get him off my mind. he is very loyal, his reputation speaks nothing but good about him, i just feel like being a cancer also maybe he wants more excitment in his life. im shy and reserved about how i feel about him and sometimes i feel as if he wants a woman who is spunky about how she feels and jumps all over him.. maybe im paranoid, but he never texts me first or anything, i always initiate the convos now when it used to be him – is cancer and cancer really hard to get off the ground?? why?

By: Yves

Yves — Sun, 15 May 2011 12:43:24 +0000

I am a female cancer and dating a cancer man. We are new in the relationship (4 months). However, in that time we have done great things together. We are both very business minded – I am a business onwner, he is an attorney. We both attend church regularily and are both single parents. Our lives cross and connected in many ways both good and confusing. He mentions all the time that we are just alike and just laughs about it. The connection we have makes most people think we are married – we finish each other sentence and add on where the other left off. However, MOODY yes! He says I pouts. Him on the other hand wines. To us that is an indication that a need is not being met. We try to keep each other happy. In short, life is too short to complain on what is not happening well, make the best of the relationship and if you can’t, well, keep it moving and let go.

By: Jen

Jen — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 04:23:15 +0000

I am a cancer woman, my boyfriend is a cancer male. Our love is deep and passionate. So most of what is said here is not true. But it was fun to read, I just don’t think signs determine who people are. Environment and culture play very big parts in personality traits. He is Armenian and I am Mexican, we have been together for a very long time and we still can’t stand being apart from each other for too long. And it still feels “too good to be true” even though its been years we still feel like we did the first time we met.

By: Dev

Dev — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 23:46:29 +0000

I am a Cancer man and I was with a Cancer woman. I can truly say it is to much of a good thing for sure. I thought both of us being Cancers we would understand each others feelings and what not. I am on the same page with David, she was very manipulative, lied, secretive the whole 9 yards. I was in a time in my life where I was ready to be open and real in a relationship instead of having my mate wonder what I was truly feeling. Though she is a very loving person and had/has deep love me, it did not work out well at all. We agrued so much and never truly connected like we could have. There was no trust in our relationship and its impossible for me to be with a person I cant trust.

She had a really tough exterior, she would never cry in front of me and always acted like she could do everything on her own, She had this I dont need your help attitude. But the funny thing is come to find out really it was the total opposite, she needed me but was to stubborn to be real and show her true feelings until it was to late . I always tried to accommodate and submit to what she wanted, and it only made things worse because once I started to stand up for what I thought was right she was not use to that, she was use to always having things her way and she would do it subtle and passively.

Now that I no longer want to be with her she is finally opening up and trying to change, but it is to late because I tried forever to make things work and once I come to the conclusion its cant I am done and keep it moving.

To anyone reading this I would say dont date cancer if you are a cancer if that cancer did not have a solid foundation as a child, find out first! Because if they didnt they cant control their feelings its like an emotional Tsunami ! And you being a cancer also makes it worse, you will take things more deeply that they do and like a hurt cancer you snap back at them and its not a good thing

By: silly

silly — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 06:19:10 +0000

v both r cancerians….n i met this guy online n decided to meet,v met n there was magic,v cud connect so well,i mmean this guy simply swept me off my feet,our thoughts,ideas,wavelength everything matched.
n this guy is soo sensitive n i loved this thing abt him,u know sum1 who cud really take care of u….
but then as usual i decided to tell him abt my past,so told him everything right from the scratch n now i have this fear of loosing him….damn i love this guy soo much.i jus wish dat i shdnt hav told him anything…….cause i thought he is the one who could connect all the dots n our equation jus matched…
plz dnt leave me for my honesty.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 19:01:13 +0000

this is true. as is.

By: Cancer Baby

Cancer Baby — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 17:53:35 +0000

Wau – not really sure what to say about all these comments. I guess every cancer is different. I believe it has alot to do with your upbringing and your enviroment. I just met a cancer man. His bday is July 1 – he is 31. I am July 18 – I am 32. We met online. We are both very attracted to each other physically.. but not just physically – mentally we are attracted to each other. We think alike.. not sure if thats a good thing or bad thing.. we both feel we dont want to take things fast, because we dont want to ruin it. The first time we met, was via web cam.. i felt more comfortable that way. I can only say that when we saw each other via webcam.. it was like we knew each other. We felt the same way, we like the same things, we have definite compatability and the chemistry was out of this world… After staring at each other via webcam for about an hour.. we decided the hell with the cam, lets meet. I love that he is so random and spontaneous -Just like me! So we met up at the grocery store.. When we got off the car it was like we knew each other already.. We walked inside the store. We talked and then we sat in his car and talked for a bit. It was really nice talking to someone who actually understands you. He was very respectful and we ended the night with a kiss. Very passionate kisser if I may add. LOL When we said goodbye – - it was weird.. neither of us wanted to say goodbye. So far so good. He even tells me he has deleted his account from the dating site.. me too! I dont know.. maybe this is the one ive been searching all my life. i mean Ive dated just about every sign except cancer… this is my first cancer.. we will see how it goes. Difference between all the other signs and cancer has to be.. there is this feeling of like we are unseperable.. almost like magnets. LOL I dont know – I am the most compatible with Scorpio but scorpio is too dominant for me.. LOL right now I feel like is too good to be true.. But you know what. If is good – then so be it.. we deserve good and we deserve to be happy. <3

By: Reena

Reena — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 09:57:05 +0000

I m not so sure whether u r right or not.
M in love with a cancerian guy & I myself is also cancerian. He is lovely, caring and honest about his views. We love to be together all the time.

By: cancer-to-the-hilt

cancer-to-the-hilt — Mon, 27 Dec 2010 20:13:34 +0000

“When it’s over there will two infantile “victims” trying to claim un-responsibility for the whole thing.” I can surely vouch for this statement. We both deny responsibility.

If anybody want to know my side:
1. She did not tell her family about our marriage for 3 years – that drove me first.
2. I heard only negative things about her work; she was a flirt with her coworkers!
3. She did not call me for 10 days on a trip – in spite of four months of my time I spent on making that trip possible.
4. She would not let me eat breakfast at 11.30am

Be careful with Cancerians (both men and women)… double the dose is bad. I am a Cancer by both sun and moon sign — so that makes my shell much more harder….

LOL – Have fun! Happy New Year Wishes for 2011…

By: crabby

crabby — Mon, 20 Dec 2010 18:45:14 +0000

You guys are scaring me. I am a Cancer woman and just started dating a cancer man (3months). I know that I am moody. But I am also super nice. What I have found out in past relationships is that my partner determines my mood. I always said I wanted someone who was very loving and affectionate. One thing that I have noticed is that maybe you should be careful what you ask for. this guy just goes way overboard with the mushiness and affection. He drives me bonkers sometimes. He is very accomodating but Im afraid he is not manly enouph for me. He never says No to me and that is not an attractive trait. I make a lot more money than him and it already is creating a dark cloud over out fairly new relationship. Money is what broke up my 1st marriage and not quite sure the same thing will not take place again.

By: jasmine

jasmine — Mon, 06 Dec 2010 06:40:50 +0000

hmm. I am a cancer woman married to a cancer man and have to say that I havent had any problems for the last ten years. We are both pretty stubborn, but we are not emotional wrecks or anything like that! Goodness, i was shocked to read of how negative cancers are being portrayed here! He loves his family, and is passionate about finances and work. I am romantic and artsy. But we can be down to earth and ‘normal’. I think these are all different personality traits and not all related to your sun sign