We only dated for a short while due to us being so young so we were just stupid and immature and ended it. but I swear they were the best times in my life. He was always so caring and nice and we literally gt along so well and we never truely fought. But even before we dated we were best friends for years, and honestly I would always seem to gravitate to him when I was with other people. Even now he still captivates me, but I won’t allow myself to go back out with him and he understands that and loyaly stays by my side as my best friend. It seems our attraction was written in the stars ;P

Well, let just start it off that we are NOT together, never have been, but hopefully, sometime in the future, we WILL be. I fell head over heels in love with this cancer man. He is caring, nice, easy to talk to, and his smile? OH his smile. Just thinking about it puts a smile on my face He is everything I wanted and more. I’ve been in a relationship once before, and he hurt me badly. I shared this with Mr. Cancer and he is a very good listening ear.

I’ll admit, that I was a little scared to open up to him, but he assured me, that what we spoke of stayed between him and i and that he just wanted me to feel more at ease with him. And boy did that work. After spilling my guts out and laughing about our past, i felt that much closer to him. I was staying at his house for a month because I wanted to visit him and every morning when he left for work, I basically slept the day away so i wouldn’t feel alone. I woke him up every morning with breakfast and a hot shower. He wasn’t even my hubby but i did these wifely duties. That just shows you how much I cared for him.

Oh and the Sex? The sex was out of this world. I have never felt anything like that before. No man has ever made me orgasm with out so much a kiss on the neck and shoulders. The way he held and caressed every inch of my body just sent chills down my spine. The guys I used to hook up with (which was only 3 others) just wanted theirs and they were done, didn’t give a damn about me. But OH Mr. Cancer…He made sure I was good. As we drifted into a deep sleep, a was awoken by warm loving kisses trailing down my back, and from that I knew weren’t done making love for the night. But, we were. He just said that he felt like he didn’t get my back enough and he just wanted to make sure every part of my body was pleased. I begged for more, but he turned me down. He thought about it long and hard and said “we can save that for the next time I lay my eyes upon you.”

That was the last night that I saw him before I left to go back to my hometown. Instead of me waking him up for work that next morning, he woke me with warm kisses and a bear hug. I didn’t want him to let go because who knows when the next time I’ll see him? As I watched him leave for work I smiled and waved. But going back inside his house I cried tears of joy, happiness, love. I didn’t know what was going on, but I didn’t want to leave that day. I laid my head on his bed for 3 hrs before it was time for me to leave just to feel close to him.

Never in my life have I ever felt like that for ANYBODY. Not even my Ex-Boyfriend. Is this real love? Am I in Love? I know what my answer is, but I wonder do he feel the same about me. That is the ONLY thing that keeps me from calling him every night is that I’m afraid he doesn’t feel the same. He told me to never feel like i couldn’t talk to him about anything, be at ease, as he would say. But, I’m just not up for a broken heart. Not over someone who wasn’t even established as my “Boyfriend”.

It’s been a little while since i left his beautiful smile, and i can’t wait to rekindle our flame, but i just can”t seem to get him off my mind. Every night, every morning, every love song, every everything just makes me think of him. And it’s not helping that I’m listening to Woman’s Work by Maxwell while writing this. hmph Until we meet again Mr. Cancer…Until we meet again my dear love.

As a Cancer man now, I’m NOW everything described about me in all these astrology books and websites, and am kinda creeped out by it. How is this study so accurate when it comes to personality traits?!?! Same goes with her. As I’m reading I’m like, “Yep.. Yep.. That sounds like her.. That’s definetly her!” I digress.. We finished each others sentences and thoughts in the beginning of the relationship. No joke, I could look at her and tell what she was thinking and she did the same thing to me! She gave me the attention that as a Cancer, I NEEDED. She was always very loving, showered me with compliments, just a giving person overall. Always had a bunch of friends and it kept us busy winding in and out of the lives of her friends and family and was good for me since I stuck with a close group of friends and have always had a close relationship with my family as well.. Problem was I had always gone from one relationship, to the next and I’m sure I was jaded from the prior one before her as I try to recall. My story is always the same, they love who I am at first with my kindness, never ending affection, giving compliments, basically treating my women like queens, and inevitably they get bored with me an I’m left crushed. I realize now at 27 that there was nothing wrong with that and I’m proud of the kind of guy that I am and turned out to be and understand that young girls DON’T know what they want. Growing up this reality was lost on me since despite having been well raised by my parents, they never taught me a thing when it came to the dating world. It would have been nice to know reality wasn’t like all the Disney movies. (sigh) So anyway, at the time, at 24 I think, I just jumped right into this one for all the same reasons we all rush into these things: I thought this girl is cute, great personality, VERY funny, the right amount of sarcasm that I like and just lit up the room with her smile no matter the situation. We were living together WEEKS after we started dating. Looking back I know that was pretty rough on our relationship because we both had strong personalities and both were pretty stubborn causing quite a few verbal fights. Her heart was in the right place and wanted/gave me exactly everything described above. Yes, we had communication issues and different styles of dealing with it but when it came to why I ended us? It came down to being young and what I thought was important at the time, holds no place in my thoughts now. Not going to go into extreme detail, I thought she she had developed a weight problem, I was getting attention from someone else. I didn’t cheat on her, but after about a year and a half of tell her I wasn’t happy for various retarded superficial reasons, I ended it.

The next 3 years of my life would be hell and ironically had to do with 3 girls.. The girl I dated immediately after that with the body I was SURE I wanted, and my weakness: a little girl that I adored because I want to be a father SO badly, turned out to be completley psycho with a heavy drinking problem and a pathological liar. She dropped BOGUS charges on me that I’ve paid tons of money to make go away. The next was only a little better in the sense that when things went her way, they were good.. Except they NEVER were good since nothing made her happy. She would pick fights over the most mundane tiniest thing that only a couple in HIGH SCHOOL would fight about. She has 3 undisciplined kids that walk all over her and do whatever they want and a father in jail, that I’m POSITIVE she’ll take back when he paroles next year; and really didn’t matter how much I tried to help or even offer it, I was wrong. Last but certainly not least, the aspiring nurse who failed to mention she suffers from manic depressive, bipolar disorder which I would have attempted to work through if she didn’t up and leave me without so much as one fight in 3 months with NO explanation.. I WISH I WAS MAKING THIS UP. I need to get back on track here.

We still have all the same friends, my family loves her, my sister (favorite person in the world) talks to her on a daily basis because she’s a positive role model for for her. All of my friends have told me its the worst mistake of my life and I couldn’t agree more. Her attitude now since she’s been in one relationship that royaly screwed her over, is she’s “a robot” basically devoid of all emotion toward the opposite sex and doesn’t want anything serious. Why am I writing all of this.. She text me in the late hours last Saturday when she was drinking at a friends house. It’s not the first time she had asked to come over cause she was close and needed to sober up before making the long journey home, but it’s one I wouldn’t forget.. I sat down on the couch and she immediately laid down and put her head in my lap, which she’s never done. We talked about her night and the funny interactions that had occurred as I played with her hair. We laughed and joked like we always do being so comfortable with each other, and then she fell asleep as if we hadn’t been carrying on seconds ago. I tried to get comfortable, preparing to sleep sitting straight up seeing how the kitchen light was still gleaming at me as well as the TV which at this point was muted since we were talking.. She started to squirm after mins and got up and excused herself to the bathroom. I took this moment to lie down on the couch and position myself to the back of the couch so as to make enough room for when she returned. When she came back I was surprised yet again when I had imagined she was going to sleep next to me little spoon turned away from me, she laid down and faced toward me close enough that are noses were touching. This got my heart racing.. Trying to sleep was now impossible knowing her lips were centimeters away.. She kept repeating, “I should go.” every 15 mins or so and when asked why, she would say, “I don’t wanna hurt you.” After this occurred several times I finally asked, “Do you want me to kiss you?” knowing full well what the answer would be. She nodded slightly but repeated the statement again. I explained that I’m not reading into this more than just what it is. (just kissing) I thought I could handle it.. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Those feelings were already there and pardon the pun, but “sealed it with a kiss.” That went on for two hours and had been some of the most passionate moments we ever shared with each other.. I’m going to have to talk to her about that night since its all I can think about whether at work, home, with family, she’s on my mind.. So.. Don’t make the same mistake I did and take these wonderful people for granted. The mental and emotional anguish later on is not worth it.. Ok, I can’t talk about this anymore and I’ve cried enough today. I’m not a writer and don’t pretend to be and because of my ADHD will sometimes ramble on about detail you never needed to know. So I apologize if you were like, “Why the hell is he talking about this part, its not important.” Just, heed my warning and LOVE your Gemini, or else your story will be, “I had someone that DID love me.”

In the beginning, our relationship started out so much fun. He said all the right comforting things that I needed to hear and he was head over heels about my looks and intelligence. Our talks went from funny to deep emotional conversations. During disagreements we never got into fights. He always talked to me with a calm, yet super conviencing, voice. We sorted our disagreements out and never went to bed angry with each other.

Obviously, our relationship hasn’t last. Now, and back then, I knew we would break up because of my urge to play mind-games. Pushing people beyond their limits. Even when/if I pushed his limits, he kept being calm. I have put him through a lot of uncalled for situations, which he really didn’t deserve. He called it quits two times due to me mistreating him and I kept chasing him to win him back and he gave in easily.

One time he flew to the country I live at, to see me but I didn’t show up for hours, almost an entire day. The reason I didn’t show up was because I back then had cancer and was indecisive of being with him while I am sick and put him through the process of (maybe not) healing. He understood that right away as I told him, he forgave me without any hesitation.
After that we had though times due to my sickness, but the relationship was strong.

The second time he called it quits was when I flew to the country he lives at and I got anxiety tendesies (according to myself). I got afraid that he would not like my appearance anymore and that he would think that I had become dull, because the cancer had worn me out physically and mentally. I had become so boney, my hair was short, my hands were dry, red/brownish sags under my eyes and I didnt had all the excitement I used to have anymore. But I didnt tell him this. I just went to his country and said I couldnt stat. Where he thought I was perhaps cheating on him or not into him anymore. I became really cold due to my insecurities. We worked that out. We had loving months after that occation.

Now those two situations weren’t occured by me wanting to play games, to trick him or to chase me. But during the time that we were in a happy relationship, I did challenge him (which he didn’t fell for often, he knew me and had became careless to my games). I challenged him nevertheless and always kept wondering in the back of my head: is this it, isn’t there someone else out there that may be able to love me even more. Not that I wanted out or didn’t think he loved me enough. It’s just the Gemini mindset, always wondering.

Back to the story.. Then I had to take pills that deprived me. I stayed in my room all day. Locked my door from my mother and siblings and did never answer my phone. He kept trying and trying to get close to me. But I got so detached from him. When I started feeling better and we had our small talks again, I told him that I didnt feel the same. That something was missing. He stayed with me but we started to talk less and less till the point we didnt talk for days.

We were completely detached. He was still crazy about me, he said. He wanted to marry and have a baby. He wanted to marry before things even got bad. And I still loved him, still love him, but I felt like wanting out. To focus on myself only to fully recover from the illness. I knew that that was the reason back then, now I know. We just stopped talking for days and days became for an entire month.

At one point he calls me and I answered. I felt warm inside and my heart honestly skipped a beat like before and I swear I heard how relieved he was to hear me again. We talk for a couple of minutes before he broke the sad news to me. He said he had met someone new and wanted to know if I was still interested in him or if it really was finito. I got so upset and went from hot to cold, changed 180 degrees. Acted as if I didnt care and that he should do whatever. He kept saying that I am his forever and he isnt in love with this girl. But I brushed it off and we didnt talk for two days.

Let’s make this story short. In that conversation I realized that I should not stand in the way of his happiness and that he deserves the best! Which I can’t give him. We talked a few more times on the phone and then without saying we should stop calling each other, we just stopped. But I know, if I would call him today, he’d pick up and try to convince me to be with him. I miss him, he is the best that has ever happened to me but he needs someone more stable of their emotions and more thoughtfull of his.

I love him, ever so dearly. And miss him, ever so much.

Gemini and Cancer: best match, but please don’t take Cancer’s kindness and warm heart as something that comes with every male. Don’t take your Cancer-male for granted!

You were together for 3 years and have been apart for a year and you’re wondering if you should give him more time to think? What does he need to think about?
For some reason, many women believe that they can be friends with old boyfriends. I can tell you for certain…as a guy, that men can not be friends with a women they have dated and have had sex with. It doesn’t work that way for men. They might tell you they are okay with just being friends but really, it’s only because they think they can get you back…or that they can have sex with you again.
I have to ask you. Have you only just remained friends or have you been physical in the year you have been separated.

If he is telling you he is confused, he needs to tell you what he is confused about because confusion shouldn’t last a year. I don’t think this guy is telling you the whole story about what he is going through. Cancer men, once in a relationship are very loyal and committed. Honestly, I think you have to back off from this guy and let him straighten out his confusion. If he wants you back, he will come for you. If he wants to be friends, I’d suggest you say good-bye. You aren’t looking for a friend.

The day we broke up, we decide to stay good friends cause we do love and care for each other; and lately he has been telling me that he felt confused lately. I wasn’t sure did he mean he is confused his love for me or he is confused if he sees me only as friend and nothing else more.

What should I do? Should I give him more time to think? I felt it’s real hard to find a good partner, who I find mentally & physically attractive. Beyond this, he is the only person I ever felt so close with, whom I could share all my thoughts and feelings with. I still remember the days when we were together, how anxious I was to see him, how much smile on my face whenever I looked at him, all these feelings just kills me cause we aren’t together anymore.

I am confused, what does cancer man wants after all..^^”..

Missing my cancer :

I happened to come across this website while trying to understand why i love my ex cancer man so much. Needless to say I’m a gemini female. We dated for 3 1/2 years and hoped to one day be his wife. That didnt happen as i discovered 3 years into the relationship that he was cheating. What i do know about cancer men is the need to feel secure and loved….or they will cheat! as a gemini woman i worked hard at being home more and molding myself into what he was needing, all the while losing myself and my self-worth. It has been 3 years since our break-up and yet i still love this man. I just cant seem to get him out of my mind! Some one please offer some advice!!!!!

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You just need to meet a new guy and Fantastic sex , you will be able to get your ex of your mind , remind yourself of the hurt he has cost you. You know it for yourself you deserve better , you just lonely now , that you keep missing what you had .

right now just from the simple fact she calls me at bedtime, and when she wakes up, is enough for me. if she was talking to other guys or had a male friend that was over, then she probably would not be bold enough to juggle like that.

now does she always call me back when she says she will? not always, gemini’s can have trouble keeping a schedule. will she eventually call back? of course. she always does. in fact even when i dont expect it. but thats kind of a nice surprise for me. im always glad to hear her voice, and tell stories, and joke around. the conversation is fast paced, never boring, no loss for words, but it gives me a sense of ease, unlike the heavy belabored conversations i have had with other girls in signs im supposed to be compatible with.

so for right now, we are both learning to open up, to trust, and to build something meaningful.

like i said i hope it pays off, shes a wonderful woman, and i see a lot of value in her that i cant find anywhere else. in my eyes, shes the perfect match, so far.

now he probably will not text first, unless he starts to miss you very much. what i would do if you really miss him is text him and ask him to call you.

its not that he had to be told constantly, but he didnt know how to respond. sometimes we overthink things instead of acting on what we know. not always, but if we are in a tight spot we do.

with you and this guy, you have to let him know you didnt mean to stomp all over his heart, since he did not have the money to give you what he wanted to, he tried to compensate by spending quality time with you, and he got stomped. so if you want to repair things, tell him you are sorry and give him a chance to make it up to you. maybe soon he will have something for you that would make uo for the birthday gift you never got, or the date you didn’t go on.

what i have learned from reading about cancer/gemini relationships is that you girls can be fickle, sometimes you want to be bothered, and sometimes you dont, but when you do want to be bothered and there is tesnion or confusion, you girls dont tell us, you want us to know we should call you or text you.

so what i do is just text when i have something genuine from my heart, not too much, and not too little. i let her know im not expecting her to reply right away, and i dont tell her any demands, i tell her how i feel about things and that’s all. i try to keep it happy and sweet, but i also tell exactly whats on my mind when the time is right. and sometimes that is not really pleasant. so i have to balance it out.

if any relationship is the most rewarding it is this match, if both people can figure out how best to balance it.

im not out of the woods yet, but im still trying, and im hoping this gem lady will really appreciate that.