You were together for 3 years and have been apart for a year and you’re wondering if you should give him more time to think? What does he need to think about?
For some reason, many women believe that they can be friends with old boyfriends. I can tell you for certain…as a guy, that men can not be friends with a women they have dated and have had sex with. It doesn’t work that way for men. They might tell you they are okay with just being friends but really, it’s only because they think they can get you back…or that they can have sex with you again.
I have to ask you. Have you only just remained friends or have you been physical in the year you have been separated.

If he is telling you he is confused, he needs to tell you what he is confused about because confusion shouldn’t last a year. I don’t think this guy is telling you the whole story about what he is going through. Cancer men, once in a relationship are very loyal and committed. Honestly, I think you have to back off from this guy and let him straighten out his confusion. If he wants you back, he will come for you. If he wants to be friends, I’d suggest you say good-bye. You aren’t looking for a friend.

The day we broke up, we decide to stay good friends cause we do love and care for each other; and lately he has been telling me that he felt confused lately. I wasn’t sure did he mean he is confused his love for me or he is confused if he sees me only as friend and nothing else more.

What should I do? Should I give him more time to think? I felt it’s real hard to find a good partner, who I find mentally & physically attractive. Beyond this, he is the only person I ever felt so close with, whom I could share all my thoughts and feelings with. I still remember the days when we were together, how anxious I was to see him, how much smile on my face whenever I looked at him, all these feelings just kills me cause we aren’t together anymore.

I am confused, what does cancer man wants after all..^^”..

Missing my cancer :

I happened to come across this website while trying to understand why i love my ex cancer man so much. Needless to say I’m a gemini female. We dated for 3 1/2 years and hoped to one day be his wife. That didnt happen as i discovered 3 years into the relationship that he was cheating. What i do know about cancer men is the need to feel secure and loved….or they will cheat! as a gemini woman i worked hard at being home more and molding myself into what he was needing, all the while losing myself and my self-worth. It has been 3 years since our break-up and yet i still love this man. I just cant seem to get him out of my mind! Some one please offer some advice!!!!!

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You just need to meet a new guy and Fantastic sex , you will be able to get your ex of your mind , remind yourself of the hurt he has cost you. You know it for yourself you deserve better , you just lonely now , that you keep missing what you had .

right now just from the simple fact she calls me at bedtime, and when she wakes up, is enough for me. if she was talking to other guys or had a male friend that was over, then she probably would not be bold enough to juggle like that.

now does she always call me back when she says she will? not always, gemini’s can have trouble keeping a schedule. will she eventually call back? of course. she always does. in fact even when i dont expect it. but thats kind of a nice surprise for me. im always glad to hear her voice, and tell stories, and joke around. the conversation is fast paced, never boring, no loss for words, but it gives me a sense of ease, unlike the heavy belabored conversations i have had with other girls in signs im supposed to be compatible with.

so for right now, we are both learning to open up, to trust, and to build something meaningful.

like i said i hope it pays off, shes a wonderful woman, and i see a lot of value in her that i cant find anywhere else. in my eyes, shes the perfect match, so far.

now he probably will not text first, unless he starts to miss you very much. what i would do if you really miss him is text him and ask him to call you.

its not that he had to be told constantly, but he didnt know how to respond. sometimes we overthink things instead of acting on what we know. not always, but if we are in a tight spot we do.

with you and this guy, you have to let him know you didnt mean to stomp all over his heart, since he did not have the money to give you what he wanted to, he tried to compensate by spending quality time with you, and he got stomped. so if you want to repair things, tell him you are sorry and give him a chance to make it up to you. maybe soon he will have something for you that would make uo for the birthday gift you never got, or the date you didn’t go on.

what i have learned from reading about cancer/gemini relationships is that you girls can be fickle, sometimes you want to be bothered, and sometimes you dont, but when you do want to be bothered and there is tesnion or confusion, you girls dont tell us, you want us to know we should call you or text you.

so what i do is just text when i have something genuine from my heart, not too much, and not too little. i let her know im not expecting her to reply right away, and i dont tell her any demands, i tell her how i feel about things and that’s all. i try to keep it happy and sweet, but i also tell exactly whats on my mind when the time is right. and sometimes that is not really pleasant. so i have to balance it out.

if any relationship is the most rewarding it is this match, if both people can figure out how best to balance it.

im not out of the woods yet, but im still trying, and im hoping this gem lady will really appreciate that.

and that was that. nothing else.

now why i am confused is because im afraid i missed an opportunity. a week ago when there was a small window of opportunity, i might have been able to talk to her face to face instead of just on the phone, which probably would have ramped things up very fast in the passion department. in fact i think she was trying to push me that direction, but got frustrated when i did not take the bait. so she backed off. now shes seems somewhat cold or indifferent. i have not told her that i see potential for a long term relationship because the physical has not even come into play yet. its just been talk, and then silence without any explanation.

just “oh i was thinking”

and then “we are still cool (as in dont worry)”

is this something i should be open to later? maybe the timing is off? should i expect her to come racing back at some random time in the future? will this ever get off the ground?

based off of our conversation, it is something i would love to explore, maybe even develop into something that lasts. but im not good at playing the waiting game, and im getting too old for sillyness.

what do i do. she completely has my mind, and im getting anxious wishing she was next to me.

Infamous G :

I am a 32 yo Gemini woman and I have a 35 yo Cancer male friend. All we do is have sex. The sex between us is marvellous and he always wants more of it. We dont have a relationship but I really do like him alot. And I can not say that the feeling is mutual. When it comes to men and me expressing my feelings Im shy and hold my feelings inside. I have never been hurt or heartbroken but I have broken plenty of guys hearts. Im so scared to open up to him and tell him how I feel. He has no kids and he is the type of man u can bring home to mama. If anyone can help or give me advice please help me.

well miss gemini, if you want it to work, tell him how you feel. let him know exactly how much you adore him. show him. put it on the line. but keep your guard up. i know as a cancer male, that i can often give the impression im not serious, but that is usually if the relationship was built off of sex in the first place. its hard to grow that way. if its built off of friendship and turns into sex and love then there is something there to sustain it when sex is not appropriate or timely.

maybe you will get lucky and he will admit he feels the same way, or maybe he was hurt and is not ready for emotional entanglements. if he is not ready, then he could back off. there are always risks involved in love, and i dont know all the details, but being honest will more than likely ease his fears and allow him to express feelings that mirror your own. if not then he will move on, and i advise you let him, and dont make him feel like he is rejected or it will get messy. you already know how to satiate your desires and find distraction elsewhere if you need to, if things do not work out.

i hope that helps a bit, but you can ask me more about the cancer males point of view. but that is not the only thing there is more than just our sun signs ruling our personalities and this can determine how well or how bad geminis and cancers interact as well.

right now im trying to keep my cool so i dont lose the interest of the gem lady i want. there are a lot of factors involved, and usually i run by now, but for some reason my instinct is telling me to stand still, be strong, and wait out all the other idiots as the last one standing. i usually have a strong exterior, but meeting her has thrown me into a place where i cant really identify everything i feel.

i have left her some messages, and some emails, and some of them i never sent. but finally i had to admit to her the truth. that i was really into her, and i wanted to be near her.

im getting to the point where its hard to bear the silence.

maybe you could give me some advice as well infamous g.

honestly i think she is my best shot at true happiness and marriage yet. well maybe not marriage, but life long loyalty and commitment.

Also I wanted to say the cancer I was reffer to was a caner/ Gemini born on the cusp but he is so cool.