Cancer Man and Libra Woman Compatibility

Famous Cancer-Libra Couples: Bodhi and Jenna Elfman, Sam Mendes and Kate Winslett, Dan Akroyd and Carrie Fisher, EB and Katherine White.

This relationship invites negative polarization along gender bent lines — that is, she winds up acting like a poor imitation of a man while he acts like a poor imitation of a woman.  They can be crabby and bossy, making each other miserable.  it helps if they fall into roles where he can be nurturing and she gets to be business like.  She should run things, being better at it by nature, but both signs are cardinal and neither is likely to give up control.  If he tries to exercise the male prerogatives she can do a particularly ugly version of passive aggressive.  This is also a prime example of the elemental dictum, “Air tortures water.”  The more hurt and vulnerable Cancer, the water sign becomes, the more distant and cold the air sign Libra gets, finally approaching the point of real cruelty to Cancer’s sensitivities.

How to Attract a Cancer Man as a Libra Woman:  Show him how you like to take control.   He’ll hate you for it later but it’s a real turn on at the start.  He likes a clean, “fresh” look, soft colors, a little fluff with the Board Room Aire.  You can be such an intriguing combination of yin and yang.  He will appreciate what a good conversationalist you are since he lacks that skill set.

How to Attract a Libra Woman as a Cancer Man:  Compliments will get you everywhere.  They don’t even need to make sense.  Most of all, tell her how beautiful she Is.

Degree of Romance:   No two people will ever try harder to play the romantic parts but I’ll save you the frustration.  You don’t really go well together that way.

Degree of Passion:   Can’t go here either.

Degree of Friendship:  This is out, too.

Degree of Marriage:  After an initial period of infatuation, you’re likely to fight about everything, never realizing what’s underneath it is that you both need to run the show.  Libra’s normal diplomacy and ability to compromise is predicated on her being in charge.  If she begins to sense (after the honeymoon is over), that this never was and never will be the basis of the relationship, she will be harder to get along with than her Evil Twin Aries.  Her abrasive pushiness, constant nagging and passive aggressive ploys like “Oh I’m so sorry.   I didn’t mean to have your cat neutered while you were gone” will drive him into the most childish pout that ever unbecame a grown man.   He may also display whininess and petulance as well as getting clingy just to get on her nerves.  Anyone in the presence of a Libra long enough is going to find their own version of passive aggression.

Progression of Relationship:   At this point, the beginning, they will be conducting the “perfect” relationship.  He will be doing everything his mother told him to do and she will be Miss Goodie Two Shoes.  Later on out comes the battle axe and screams of “That’s not FAIR.”  These two are also voted most likely to be heard saying those four nasties, “I told you so!”  They are pleading to an imaginary court.  She expects Athena, Goddess of Just Wars, to come to her aid, while he is secretly trying to invoke the Furies.  When they finally realize it’s all in their own head – there is no Greek Chorus — no one else cares, is listening or hears — then It’s over.

Sex:  Sex can be complicated by paybacks and iou’s.  It’s hard to imagine how complicated something so natural can become.  The chemistry between these two seems to produce withholds and sandbagging which are most likely to be expressed in the bedroom.

When It’s Over:  Years later she’ll still be keeping score while his mother never misses a chance to tell him “I told to it would never work out.”

Our Rating: 2 /10

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89 Responses to Cancer Man and Libra Woman Compatibility

  • Kayla says:

    I Get along just fine with my cancer man He’s sweet listens understands its not when u were born or ur sign its about how they want to view life and treat ppl

  • Kerby says:

    I am a Libra/Scorpio Rising…he is a Cancer…till this day I will always be thankful for (and he does too) a deep, caring & nurturing friendship. Girls…the “trick to a Mans Heart is thru his stomach”! How true. I fed him, was his friend whilst he was unwell & my neighbour. Will never forget his smile when he returned my plate! lol We have each moved away from each other but still have contact. Life is great!

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  • Stephanie says:

    I’m married and this is totally true. I’m a libra with a cancer rising but we still fight! Cancers are too sensitve about everything!

  • Stephanie says:

    Also, Sam Mendes is a Leo not a Cancer. Kate White is a Virgo. Dan Akroyd is married to Donna Dixon who is a Leo and Carrie Fisher is married to Paul Simon, a Libra.

  • Marissa says:

    I’m a libra woman, just broke things off with my cancer. One word- Ugh!! He was so boringggggggg all he ever wanted to do was stay home and watch games and drink with his friends. And who was stuck cleanin? -me! I’m an extremely social person and this was just ridiculous. On top of that he was very irresponsible, I had to constantly tell him to get things done! I felt like his mom or something. I’m glad that’s over.

  • hailtothecrab says:

    I have a ton of female friends that are Libra, one of which is a very good friend of mine. I’ve figured out how Libras work, which is perhaps hard for the normal Cancer man to take up, so here’s some advice.

    The most important thing I’ve found out about women under Libra is that they hate being smothered with attention. They like their space and they really like their independence. Libra is one of the most detached signs of the zodiac along with Aquarius and it’s always best to always really be at an arms length. Also, justice is #1 to Libra so be fair, on time, etc. And be real, I can’t stress that enough – feel free to disagree with her when you see fit, in fact she’ll like you even more for having your own opinion.

    Libra women love people, so it’s good to always just let her socialize. That’s her element. In this regard it’s like dating a Sag, they socialize and even flirt with other men but have you as their #1. The scale may have an inanimate exterior but they really do care deep down. Also, be prepared for flip floping of ideas/plans/etc. much in the style of a scale.

    Would I ever give this relationship a chance? Sure. All because libra women are not alike. One Libra woman I know is loud, parties hard and partakes in risky behavior while another one is very quiet and bashful, and is more of the type to crawl into bed on a friday night. It can work nicely given the right Cancer and the right Libra.

  • Lindsey says:

    I’m Lindsey (libra) I’ve been with my man derek (cancer) for over 7 years, he is the best thing that ever happened to me! We may disagree from time to time but we almost never fight, so I feel we are the perfect match!! So it’s possible, so don’t judge a man ( women) by there sign if u love someone and they treat u right that’s all that’s all that matters! You can’t help who u love!!!! Peace,love& happiness

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  • graceful says:

    I don’t entirely agree with this rating. SOME Cancer men I actually like a lot. Oh yeah, they can be annoyingly moody and overly sensitive, but somehow (in me, at least) they bring out a tenderness in me that I never feel with other men. I have moon in Leo though, so maybe that’s why?
    However! 2 things that really bother me about Cancer men: 1. They’re indiscriminate woman-lovers. They’re just fascinated with women in general, and love their company (I think this is especially true for MOON in Cancer men), and that just doesn’t fly with me. I have to be the absolute, number one, unrivaled woman. Period. 2. Some Cancer men are irritatingly dreamy and spaced out and lack a certain common sense. Like, they lose stuff all the time and forget (really, truly, just forget) to reply to texts, etc. Maybe it just comes with the softness.
    Still, I’d personally give this combo an 8/10. At least.

  • hmmmmm says:

    very interesting. i’ve been reading a lot of compatibility ratings on each sign and this is the lowest one i’ve seen yet.

    rating of 2 for cancer man and libra woman? the reading of this article is just horrible for cancer men to get with libra women.

  • Debbie says:

    I have never read anything so negative…there was not one good point made about them as a couple or as individuals…i have read many,many compatibility charts and not one of them said anything remotely close to this… i know from other charts,books,etc and from my own experience, that while libra and cancer have many differences, they can also be one of the best matches of the zodiac signs..i mean wow was this person having a crappy day when they wrote this or what? NO passion, NO romance, NOT even friendship..i think all of the comments AFTER were much more accurate and FAIR..just my libran two cents =)

  • Debbie says:

    My cancer man is the complete and total opposite of me and although it does drive me nuts that he has trouble seeing things from anothers point of view and we do clash ALOT lol these things are also why i love him and need him..he is everything i lack and vice versa..together (on a good day) we make one complete well rounded person..yes we argue and when we do its horrible and the worst ever…but when its good its the best ever and worth it all…

  • crystal says:

    I have to say that yes cancer men seem to be very seltered within themselves but the cancer guy I am seeing knows just what to say to calm me down when I’m outta wack. Its all about compromise with us. Sometimes I take the back seat and other times he takes the back seat. We seem to get along pretty well besides his distant behavior and lack of commnication at times. I can be Moody so I can deal with Moody as long as its communicated to me that you need some time. I’m laid back and we are great together although we clash at times. Whoever wrote must have ran into a libra in distress lol wow! We love to know that your loyal and we love to feel secured.

  • KH says:

    I had a libra girlfriend before.. we were riding a roller coaster like any other relationships.. I gave her all the attention and patience that she always wanted.. we were planning to get married after we graduate in college.. I truly loved and trusted like no other..

    until I caught her cheating on me through one of my friends.. my friend saw her on a bar and took a picture of her kissing with some guy he then followed them when they went inside a motel.. He showed the picture to me, after seeing it my heart was crushed.. I felt like everything was falling apart.. hurt, anger and pure rage coursed through my soul. what the hell!.. I thought To all cancer men out there, watch out for libras!.. they are players, cheaters and liars!..

  • biggs says:

    I’m a Cancer male. N oh boy does it hit right on the head. Been with my libra for 5 yrs. N the last 3 have been hell. Lol. But the sex is amazing. Passion yup, all there. Libra if you don’t give her space or respect that she diente know how to ask for, then all hell will break loose. They like you take control in the beginning, but after u wonder what happened. Unless u work as a partner up front n discuss roles you both will play it will never work.

  • M says:

    Wow. My last two serious relationships were with Cancer men and the section about marriage was spot on. The nagging and passive aggression on my part was very present. I couldn’t handle the whiny pouting on their parts. (it’s funny how two very different guys ended up acting the same way.). So much negativity and resentment by the end. And it’s been difficult to maintain a friendship with either of them. I normally use horoscopes and sign matching for fun, but i think I’ve learned my lesson about Cancer men.

  • Nana says:

    what liiieeeesss! me and my boyfriend were best friends before we dated and it says that there really isnt a libra cancer friendship and that theirs no passion or romance! lies! Were so madly inlove and his parents, actually his whole family things im amazing and one of the best hes ever dated. Biggest lies ive ever heard.

  • hiranya baruah says:

    I want know which i have married and which zodic sign is compitable for me.

  • Sandy says:

    The compatibility score is almost accurate except for one thing… The Sex!!! My relationship with a cancer man was everything that a relationship shouldn’t be. It was the sex that kept us both coming back for more. Cancer men can be the most attentive lovers and libra women can not get enough of that desire to make her happy.

  • E says:

    You really should take into concideration of June born Cancers over July born Cancers. I notice that with the June born Cancers your assesment is spot on, however I am a Libra surrounded by both June and July born Cancers and the July born Cancers are the most sweets loving of the sign. They never leave you wanting for anything, and I prefer them over June Born Cancers who seem to be the crabbiest of them all. It can be very discouraging that you would steer the two away when depending on time of birth, the partnership can actually work. Remember your attempting to perdict peoples life partnerships, and I would hate from the nevgativity in your assement steer soul mates away simply because you believe the Zodiac signs aren’t a match. Thanks for your opinion though.

  • koNW says:

    Im cancer with rising libra.. i read personality traits of cancer but i cant say its all i have.. then i found out what i got that were not written there are traits i got from my rising………. and are really dominating lol…….

    i feel the libra in me :P plus the intuition/intimacy of cancer… very competitive, go-getter, picky, etc ballanced /

  • koNW says:

    @E Hi E im june born cancer and i agree with you… the sweet cancers are in july..

    june twenty first to july three are socialist, there for you when u need them, less neurotic and less serios.. just like
    T. cruise and Nikola Tesla..

  • koNW says:

    But it also depend on the rising signs.. because what other see us is our rising and sometimes rising is dominant ………
    Im Libra rising and i look like my rising, act like it, think like the way of it, and see life like exactly like it..

    my friends say i look like sarcastic when they first saw me. and sometimes people miss interpret my thoughts… But i feel its charming at the same time.. lol.

  • libragirl says:

    im a libra and i have NEVER cheated…. matter of fact my ex who is a Cancer cheated on my with my best friend….so i suggest not basing shitty personalities off of my sign. thank you

  • neha says:

    i totally agree with this…i hav been dating a cancerian for 11 months and i think its just getting worse by the day…we fight almost evryday…n yea we do us “its not fair” and ” i told you so” like..A LOT!! initially it was great but later it just feels like its choking you….trust me being a libran ive tried almost evrythng to make this work,,,,,but at the end of evrything i realised….”its so not worth it” !!! v librans are just too much for the cancerian guys and its just the way it is…!!! not anyone’s fault really!!! not meant to be!!

  • Rachel says:

    Dear Cancer Man,
    You pull out the worst in me sometimes… When I say the worst I mean my insecurities. The kind makes me question why do you like me again? Your silence soothe me. But when will you romance me with words? I fall deeper into your commitment and your strength. And I feel as if I am floating into your sea. You heart haunts my dreams like a song I knew once. But then I see outside my own grief and want to give you the whole world. I want listen to the stories of you life. They give me peace of mind. when you smile I feel hope and fulfillment. You make me cry tears of joy when I can make you happy. Yes, I’ll wait for you. I’ll wait forever. You can hold my heart in your hands.
    Your Princess

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  • Nabee says:

    I am a Libra and my man is a cancer. Initial attraction was great, then came a phase when he acted very fussy and whinny and even made me feel like I don’t exist in his life… but after that phase was over there was NO LOOKING BACK.. Comfort & Security – this 2 words describe our relationship and we are planning to get married soon. :) So yes with all difference I guess with a little compromise and by catering to the needs of our partner you can always make a relationship work :)

    And no matter how detached and indifferent a Cancer man shows at times, deep inside all he needs and wants is you to be there for him and to love him even when the world had turned its back on him.. so any woman being there for him and being faithful wins this man for a lifetime :) And it is absolutely worth it <3

  • radolphhanz says:

    Marriage Come And Go, But Divorce Is Forever

  • Mish says:

    Katherine White was a Virgo… Not a Libran… Please cross check ur sources…

    That’s why E.B. White and Katherine White was so much together…

  • Mish says:

    Katherine White was a Virgo… Not a Libran…

    That’s why E.B. White and Katherine White were* so much together…

    Please cross -check ur sources and confirm ur sources…

  • Libra relationship says:

    Damn, Nancy, now you really gave this one the BIGGEST and LOWEST number ever.

    Cancer man/Libra woman a 2/10

    Cancer man will get insane with Libra woman’s hew hawing and argumentative attitude.

    Cancer sun O.J Simpson married a Taurus woman but she had a Libra moon and according to him, she drove him crazy.

  • Christina Reed says:

    I am a Libra and I have a Cancer man. We been together for over 7 years and yes we fight occasionally like any normal couple, and he is a little more cautious and sensitive then I am, but that’s it, in regards to this claim. We are perfect for each. He is my world and I am his. We are engaged and will be getting married soon, cuz we know we don’t need to or want to be with anyone else. We love each other as much as we did since we first started dating and I don’t see anyone else or any other way. So we definitely don’t fall into the typical Libra against cancer. So I def wouldn’t take this post that serious. cuz everyone is different even if your horiscope/astrology says so. It’s not the all knowing exact answer people should depend

  • Libra Wife Cancer Husband says:

    There is some truth to this posting however the whole truth isn’t written. I have been married to my cancer man for 9 years and we’ve been together a total of 23 years. My evil twin Aries just so happens to be our 12 year old daughter. My husband and I have a great sex life and we get along famously. We were friends for 3 years prior to moving in together and having our now 19 year old son. He is a family man and loves to be in charge so like in any marriage we compromise when I see a bout coming on I give in and allow him to take control of whatever he feels he can take control of. Of course I had to learn how to do that. Usually when it comes down to it whatever he can’t handle he comes to me and let’s me know when I need to take over that way he still feels like he’s in charge. overall I love my cancer man and I won’t give him up for nothing.

  • Michael Hanson says:

    I get an almost strong impression that you’re biased against Cancers here. Not that it’s a bad thing, Libras are great signs, but you have next to nothing but good things to say about Libras. There was nothing positive at all about the Cancer here.

    Like above posters said, this was an abysmal rating for a pairing I usually see optimism for. So far with other horoscopes it’s mostly been a matter of differences that can be overcome with a (Sometimes) basic understanding of each others needs and each others flaws, as well as the individuals’ understanding of their own needs and flaws. I see almost nothing but, “Cancer is whiny, pouty, childish, and lacks conversational skills. The beautifully-balanced ‘yin-and-yang’ nature of the ‘good-conversationalist’ Libra is pretty much better off somewhere else.”

    I get a sense of a Libran author who had a sour time with a Cancerian. I can understand, a lot of Cancers can be irrational and pouty as well as highly sensitive, but then again so can Libras. Neither side is perfect, and not every chance of pairing is doomed to fail. There have been quite a few that absolutely blossom, and the comments for this article only add to that belief. It’s quite a shame there isn’t a balanced pro-and-con detailing of each sign, or at the very least a small sentence indicating your awareness, and subsequently your readers’ awareness, that one article doesn’t apply to every single individual living under the sign.

  • Michael Hanson says:

    Also, never forget ladies and gentleman: Horoscopes aren’t always the one and only. Upbringing and culture has a lot to do with a personality, and there are some personality’s that do not fit the sign they were born under. I say this because of the potential for [a] Zodiac Sign(s) to get a bad-rap from misleading articles like this one, and because there are a surprising number of people who think they know everything about a person just because they asked for their sign.

    I acknowledge, respect, and believe in horoscopes, but it’s important to identify the judgement that stems from it.

  • doctor says:

    HEY, i am a libra girl… i have been in LOVE wd a cancer man for over 8-9 years….
    let me tell u something about this relation–our relation instead!
    at the start this was all AWESOME, it was me , who made the first move, it was me who fell badly for him, we remain friends for about 7,8 months, that was incredible. but later i told him i loved him, he told it back to me, told me he couuldnt just confess so, was waiting for me to do so :p
    anyway, it all started pretty well, but then the stage came, we both couldnt simply understand eachother…i would say, as i made the first move before, it was me who got suffocated the MOST… he was very COLD at times, he wanted to be BOSSY, he just was irresposnsible, he almost FORGETS everything, even date was sometimes very CASUAL for him, all these things irritated me a lot, but from me, my nagging nature, my agressive nature irritated him a lot… later wd time we both became mature, we ACCEPTED eachother the way we are… its all about understanding eachother, now i let him BE A MAN… n its working very well.. i have learnt to compromise, because i love him so much.. he loves me a lot too. we both just simply cant let go off eachother at any cost.
    here’s a point i learnt:
    if u really need a strong relation wd a cancer man u need to learn only 3 things:
    give him SPACE when he needs so, have PATIENCE that he will come back to u, be POLITE when he comes to u…!!
    thats all u need.

    cancers are emotional, libra on other hand thinks with reasoning, they both r diffrent, but if they are mature enough, they can go on very well, and LOVE conquers ALL.. if u love eachother, nothing can work better than this relationship. once a libra girl has conquered heart of his cancer man– he is going no where , he is all urs. just hold on for moment, just go slow wd him the way he wants to be, it not like m not bossy.. m very bossy at times, but he understands me well.

    this relation needs a lil effort, compromise n understanding, and its a BLAST! we r hopoing to get married soon.may we live together forever!

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