Famous Cancer-Libra Couples: Bodhi and Jenna Elfman, Sam Mendes and Kate Winslett, Dan Akroyd and Carrie Fisher, EB and Katherine White.

This relationship invites negative polarization along gender bent lines -- that is, she winds up acting like a poor imitation of a man while he acts like a poor imitation of a woman.  They can be crabby and bossy, making each other miserable.  it helps if they fall into roles where he can be nurturing and she gets to be business like.  She should run things, being better at it by nature, but both signs are cardinal and neither is likely to give up control.  If he tries to exercise the male prerogatives she can do a particularly ugly version of passive aggressive.  This is also a prime example of the elemental dictum, “Air tortures water.”  The more hurt and vulnerable Cancer, the water sign becomes, the more distant and cold the air sign Libra gets, finally approaching the point of real cruelty to Cancer’s sensitivities.

How to Attract a Cancer Man as a Libra Woman:  Show him how you like to take control.   He’ll hate you for it later but it’s a real turn on at the start.  He likes a clean, “fresh” look, soft colors, a little fluff with the Board Room Aire.  You can be such an intriguing combination of yin and yang.  He will appreciate what a good conversationalist you are since he lacks that skill set.

How to Attract a Libra Woman as a Cancer Man:  Compliments will get you everywhere.  They don’t even need to make sense.  Most of all, tell her how beautiful she Is.

Degree of Romance:   No two people will ever try harder to play the romantic parts but I’ll save you the frustration.  You don’t really go well together that way.

Degree of Passion:   Can’t go here either.

Degree of Friendship:  This is out, too.

Degree of Marriage:  After an initial period of infatuation,
you’re likely to fight about everything, never realizing what’s underneath it is that you both need to run the show.  Libra’s normal diplomacy and ability to compromise is predicated on her being in charge.  If she begins to sense (after the honeymoon is over), that this never was and never will be the basis of the relationship, she will be harder to get along with than her Evil Twin Aries.  Her abrasive pushiness, constant nagging and passive aggressive ploys like “Oh I’m so sorry.   I didn’t mean to have your cat neutered while you were gone” will drive him into the most childish pout that ever unbecame a grown man.   He may also display whininess and petulance as well as getting clingy just to get on her nerves.  Anyone in the presence of a Libra long enough is going to find their own version of passive aggression.

Progression of Relationship:   At this point, the beginning, they will be conducting the “perfect” relationship.  He will be doing everything his mother told him to do and she will be Miss Goodie Two Shoes.  Later on out comes the battle axe and screams of “That’s not FAIR.”  These two are also voted most likely to be heard saying those four nasties, “I told you so!”  They are pleading to an imaginary court.  She expects Athena, Goddess of Just Wars, to come to her aid, while he is secretly trying to invoke the Furies.  When they finally realize it’s all in their own head – there is no Greek Chorus -- no one else cares, is listening or hears --- then It’s over.

Sex:  Sex can be complicated by paybacks and iou’s.  It’s hard to imagine how complicated something so natural can become.  The chemistry between these two seems to produce withholds and sandbagging which are most likely to be expressed in the bedroom.

When It’s Over:  Years later she’ll still be keeping score while his mother never misses a chance to tell him “I told to it would never work out.”

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