This relationship is one of my secret favs. Two very gentle, tuned-in individuals find peace and comfort in each other’s arms. Both the Virgo man and Cancer woman carefully groom each other and a small circle of people with whom they have genuine connections. Each would never knowingly hurt someone else. Both are protective and talented in human relations. Though, much to their own dismay, they can be whiny, fussy and needy when off center, they feature high on the integrity scale for good intentions. Bringing out the very best in one another, they actually enjoy giving more than receiving when paired up together. Their taste is likely to be similar, focusing on a small world of comfort and perfection rather than, for example, setting the world on fire – though they may wind up doing so peripherally. Both tend to value soul care and moral development above egoism, keeping-up-with-trends or accumulating the latest stuff. Both prefer comfort and understatement to ostentation.
How to Attract a Cancer Man as a Virgo Woman: Show your awareness of and concern for healthy lifestyle. Describe how much you like vegan or low-cholesterol cooking. Imply that you would love to take very good care of him. Give him something you made with your own hands like a cookie. Get to know his favorite color. Keep it low key and low maintenance. Here, finally, is the right place to be sincere. Use the Magick Word often (“we”) and in future implied tense. Be comforting and soothing. If he’s late or forgot to bring his mapquest directions printout, say “Now, now, everything’s going to be ok.” I know that’s what people usually say to you but you’ve met your match. He needs it even more than you do. In this relationship you’re going to have to calm, cool and collected while he worries and frets. Your tender ministrations will help him avoid an ulcer at an early age. Here’s another hot tip. Please treat his mother like royalty. He really, really loves her.
How to Attract a Virgo Woman as a Cancer Man: Pay for everything. Make exquisite choices that show attention to detail. Remember everything she tells you as she will remember everything you tell her. Wherever you go, keep the lights low, the music soft and the food healthy. Treat her small pet as a member of the family. Drop her off at the door while you hassle the parking and weather issues. Let her know how much you appreciate every little thing unless you want it to evaporate into thin air. She is very devotional but NEVER a door mat. If you have a complaint, word it diplomatically. Keep it short and focused. No reason to get emotional. She really listens and will understand. No need to go Commando/
Degree of Romance: There’s a lot of exquisite feelings between these two but even greater is their ability to express them. This couple thrives on the impromptu foot or neck rub which quickly turns erotic. (You have no idea what feet are for till you date-and-mate a Virgo woman.) . They may particularly enjoy romancing in the hot tub. Cancers are water babies and Virgo is great with a nubby toweled rubdown.
Degree of Passion: Passion comes naturally when two people are so relaxed and comfortable with one another. Trust is not just a five-letter word. It’s a visceral “I’m ok You’re ok” feeling that pervades everything they do together.
Degree of Friendship: Who is ALWAYS there to lend
Degree of Marriage: Cancer man and Virgo woman make for super compatibility. They really focus on “love, honor and serve”. They will spend untold blissful hours getting their lovely home “just perfect for us”. It will be a marvel of comfort and efficiency with personal detailing every where in evidence. They make model “hands-on” partners and parents. In a world full of wind bags, uber bling bling enthusiasts, slobs, geeks, freaks and weaks, they have each found the Perfect Partner. Ah! The sanity of it all. Now let’s go have some good, clean fun.
Progression of Relationship: Being so grateful to find one another, they may want to go slowly and savor every step along the way. They do a minuet courtship dance of intricate touches and personal pleasure. There they are, over there!! She’s saying, with tears in her soft eyes, “I always wanted someone to watch the sun set with me from the temple steps here overlooking the harbor. This is so right.” “I know. I know,” he says and pulls her close. Virgo: You know what else I’d like to do next >>> ?” …. Cancer: Big smile.
Sex: Sex becomes something of a ritualized way of “showing I care”. There’s the Kama Sutra, lying open on the nearby mantel to our current favorite page. Let’s start right where we left off last time. We may want to bathe each other before or after with Tsalagi bath salts and our special monogrammed Matouk Egyptian cotton luxury bath towels, his and hers (we splurged!). And here on the bedside table are our K-Y® “Yours+Mine” special products, a feather, the Ben Wa balls …. No interruptions, please!
When It’s Over: It’s the never-ending combination. Just keep the dream alive.
Our Rating: 10/10

#1 by kitty on September 22nd, 2009
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this is great, so true!
#2 by nancy on September 22nd, 2009
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Thanks for stopping by the site – we aim to please – tell a friend!! And how fortunate you are to be in a relationship like this.
#3 by Bowieclarke on September 26th, 2009
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Thank you for the very insiteful information, I’m looking forward to re-starting a relationship with the Cancer man who I dated when I was14 yrs old, now 41we have found each other again on Facebook. Fingers crossed…
#4 by nancy on September 27th, 2009
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Good luck with your new connection with an old love. Romeo and Juliet met at 14
#5 by CM on September 28th, 2009
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Line 2 and Line 3 are written backwords. It says Virgo man and Cancer woman.
#6 by nancy on September 28th, 2009
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Thanks, CM, I corrected it. Good to have that Virgo attention to details.
#7 by Ambrosia on November 2nd, 2009
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That Progression of Relationship!! XD Perfect!! Caught me and my Cancer boyfriend!! XD You’re amazing!
#8 by nancy on November 3rd, 2009
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Thank you. I’m glad you liked it.
#9 by Wendy on November 26th, 2009
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This was so pleasant to read! I have feelings for a cancer guy and was wondering if there was actually a real connection there or if I was just telling myself that because I cared so much about him, but reading this, it sounds exactly like he and I! Especially that entire paragraph about “Progression of Relationship”. That was like hitting the nail on the head. Perhaps someday he’ll come around. Thanks for the detailed analysis! Great site!
#10 by nancy on November 27th, 2009
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Thanks for the great feedback, Wendy. I hope he comes back around.
#11 by Clarke on December 1st, 2009
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Oh, wow! This was so correct, it’s almost scary. It seriously epitomizes me and my Cancer man’s relationship, I almost felt like crying. Which as a Virgo is not my usual reaction to sentiment, or at least it wasn’t till I met my Cancer… Thank you!
#12 by steve on December 30th, 2009
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Hi nancy ! I am a cancer man and i have feelings for a virgo woman . At first, she was the one that showed her interest to me . she was always looking at me , she wanted to be close to me and so on . Then i felt an attraction for her . The funny thing is that my scorpio friend noticed her at first and wanted to get a date with her, but she liked me more . We talked some times and there was always an undercover ( i want you ) in our voices , but all the time she had her friend around and i was not able to ask her out . know i have many days to see her and when i do she is not like before . What happened ? does she still want me or maybe she found someone else ? Based on her sign what can i do ?
#13 by nancy on January 5th, 2010
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Invest the time to court her a little and seee if you can pass the Virgo test!
#14 by RS on January 18th, 2010
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Hi nancy!
I am a virgo woman who recently dated a cancer man for 2 1/2 years. Our relationship was amazing but we were dating long distance and it became too much for us to handle. We decided to take a break in the hopes that we will be together again in the future. Your last line is very inspiring and makes me feel better about our decision. Thank you!
#15 by steve on January 22nd, 2010
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Hi nancy , i saw this virgo woman again and she was very friendly and cheery , so i felt ready to ask her to give me her number but she said (
give me yours instead cause i dont remember mine ) so i did and when i said my name is steve , she said ( aha like my boyfriend ) and i felt so bad but i said something like aha nice . I still feel very confused and i am thinking about her having a bitter feeling in my heart ! What should i do now ? Should i keep her as a friend, if i can, after what happened ? Give me your advise !
#16 by val on January 24th, 2010
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This is very,very true!! i’m a virgo woman and i’m getting married to a cancer man this year!! we’ve been friends for over eight years and he finally told me how much he loved me two months ago. He proposed immediately and i said yes! the relationship feels like heaven,i’ve never been this happy in my life.
#17 by nancy on January 25th, 2010
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@#16Val
Enjoy! It’s a match made in heaevn!
#18 by nancy on January 25th, 2010
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@15Steve
I think you need to let it go, Steve. Sorry.
#19 by nancy on January 25th, 2010
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@#14RS
I’m so sorry that distance kept yoo apart,
#20 by Amanda on January 26th, 2010
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I’ve been in multiple relationships before, all being with fire signs. This is the first time i’ve been with a water sign romantically and the analysis for Virgo female (me!) and male Cancer is very true.
I also believe it’s one of the best matches, personally.
Very harmonius
#21 by nancy on February 2nd, 2010
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@Amanda Thanks for the positive feedback. This one should work well for you.
#22 by Molly Q on February 28th, 2010
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Hey Nancy, I have bit of a problem, I’ve been dating this guy for a month and I just recently found out he has this girl.. I’m a virgo, he’s cancer and she’s a pisces… I just got bumped out of the picture and that month was the best month ever. It hurts me so bad to see them together because I kno what we cud have had would have been so great, just by that one month. Should I tell him how I feel??? Do you think it will matter? He does have a girlfriend. But I know I’m so much better..
#23 by Lisa Jones on March 26th, 2010
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Hi Nancy,
Whoa….this is like right on! You’re amaaaazing. Is this really one of your secret fav’s? Cancer man and virgo woman? Can you talk a little more about why? I am totally in love with this cancer guy and I believe he may feel the same about me but I am not sure so in hopes of not getting my heart broken, I want to keep my feelings close to my vest for a little while.
Also, I am a little scared. He is such a good guy but has an aries and pisces woman vying for him as well. I know your compatibility to someone has much more to do with just sun sign but, do you think I have an upper hand being a virgo woman? I’m not too nervous about the aries gal because she is a bit too loud and brash for him but the pisces gal scares me a bit because they are the same element! Help me Nancy please! I don’t want to lose this guy to any of the other girls. The intensity of passion that I feel between us is just off the charts!
Anything you can say will be helpful even if it is the truth and even if it hurts.
Much love,
#24 by nancy on April 3rd, 2010
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@Lisa
Just be yourself!
#25 by nancy on April 3rd, 2010
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I do a fully personalized astrological analysis of both parties for $250. Email me at nancy@bemyguide.net
#26 by Elle on May 7th, 2010
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I think that I´ve met my soulmate. I´m a virgo and he´s a cancer, so this article made me very glad! How can I “wake” him?
#27 by danielle on May 25th, 2010
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Hello, I was wondering what do u feel is better for a cancer man, a virgo woman or a libra woman? Plse explain why plse if u don’t mind. Thanks so much.
#28 by vini on June 5th, 2010
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I’m a cancer male, my girlfriend is a virgo. She’s the greatest person I have ever met ! we are the best of friends. I think she is the prettiest girl in the world, however, when I sexually fantasise, it’s about other women. please help.
#29 by Jackie on June 15th, 2010
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Im a Virgo woman, Ive been dating a Cancer man on and off for about 3 years and I love him to death. Ive never had such a great connection with anyone else.But While I read everyone else’s comments on how great their relationship with their Cancer partner is, my heart is breaking because I have no idea what he really feels in a way. He seems to be so up and down about his feelings. And I am now expecting our 1st child and would love more then ever to have a serious stable relationship and take care of my family with him by my side to experience this with. But im feeling so negative and emotional about him not possibly wanting the same thing.
#30 by Jon on July 5th, 2010
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This virgo woman is so confusing. I rarely see her but when I do she keep sneaking glances at me and seems like she wants me to talk to her. When I ask her out she always makes an excuse and says maybe another time 2 times in the past month. But she seems “somewhat” responsive to conversation. When I finally decide I dont want to talk to her, she sends me an invite to something with me and some mutual friends. I dont understand, I am leaning towards her not being interested. What would you say? Thanks.
#31 by Tori on July 27th, 2010
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I have been in 2 relationships with Cancer men before and one long term (11yrs)but ended with him having addiction problems. Recently another Cancer picked me out of a group of women and has been very attentive. He is 8yrs younger. I am having issues with the age difference. He doesn’t care about the age and assures me he has never felt so strongly about someone before. Apparently has never had a relationship with older either. I feel insecure but attracted. What do I do? Oblige?
#32 by Rita on August 19th, 2010
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i’ve just begun a relationship with a cancer man. he is 9 yrs younger than me n i never date younger men. i’m very attracted to him & can’t stop thinking of him. i’m also afraid of being hurt & because of that hurting him. i don’t know what to do but i want him dearly and forever
#33 by ryan on September 5th, 2010
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im currently trying to get this virgo women who has a cancer boyfreind i am a scorpio how can i get here from this cancer man they been together for a little bit of time please help
#34 by nancy on September 5th, 2010
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@ryan Be very polite and respectful … and patient.