Gemini Man and Cancer Woman Compatibility


Famous Gemini-Cancer Couples:  Gene Wilder and Gilda Radner, Michael J. Fox and Tracy Pollen, Marky Mark Wahlberg and Rhea Durhaam

After the initial attraction, because he is so masculine and she is so feminine, they’re pretty much destined to drive each other crazy.  Gemini is too busy being busy to provide the security that Cancers craves, and furthermore, he interprets her needs as evidence she’s “clingy” and “whiny.”  If she happens to be secure enough to use her sense of humor aggressively like Gilda Ratner, she might be able to hold her own, but a Gemini man and a Cancer woman is not a recommended match.

How to Attract a Cancer Woman as a Gemini Man:   Cancer women are interested in security and whatever that means to them personally.    She may equate security with your constant companionship or a promise to buy her a home in the future.  She may equate it with how much money you make, or that you stay in constant touch with her via text.  As you can see, this is guaranteed to drive you absolutely batty.  No Gemini in the world wants that close a tab kept, but if you are smitten with this lovely moon creature, you will have to find ways to reassure her of your constant affection.  Most women you can conquer with the blarney stone, but the Cancer lady wants deeds not words.  She will expect you to back up your promises by your actions.  That really is a stretch, Gemini.


How to Attract a Gemini Man as a Cancer Woman:  The Queen of Beguiles meets the King of Wiles.  What we have here is a summit meeting of ploys and conniving.  If this fascinating creature has caught your eye, Cancer, you will have to use all your feminine wiles to attract and keep him.  By all means, play hard to get.  Curb all tendencies to wait by the phone or to complain that he didn’t call you back fast enough.  I know it’s hard, but you can do it.  The best thing you have going for you is your zany sense of humor and the natural skills that go along with being a Cancer:  cooking, nurturing, and home-making.  Even a Gemini spins out from time-to-time and needs a cushy pad or lap in which to crash.

Degree of Romance:   Cancer, be prepared to be swept off your feet.  If he wants you, there is no one more romantic than a Gemini man.  The trouble comes when it’s time to back it up. But let me warn you if this is your first encounter with the Gemini species that you will probably hear the most beautiful words you’ve ever heard spoken and it will be hard to resist believing them.  Try to reserve your judgment.

Degree of Passion:   If Gemini wants something and that something requires passion, he will produce it.  He is a master of disguises, a wizard.  Beware of Siegfried’s Tarn — now you see him, now you don’t.  After all, he is ruled by Mercury and no one can hold quicksilver in their hands — or their claws, dear Cancer.

Degree of Friendship:  Cancer looks for affection more than friendship, and being sheltered more than sheltering.  Gemini believes in high exposure, risk-taking, and living on the edge.  These two would certainly never be friends, though they might be lovers for a while.

Degree of Marriage:  This combination can work if the Gemini man lets the Cancer female stay at home all the time while he’s out running around doing his thing.  This is not to suggest that Gemini is unfaithful, but they need a very long leash to engage in their important social activities and networking.  It is typical for a Gemini to “drop by the house occasionally” rather than actually living there.  If Cancer wants to revolve her life around him, she will be sorely disappointed.  The relationship works if she builds her life around her children, mother, siblings, and other relatives who need more constant companionship than he does.  Caveat:  Geminis is the sign we  vote most likely to leave a woman standing at the altar.

Progression of Relationship:   Gemini is sporadic and inconstant even in courtship.  If you pay close attention, you may find that he is texting and emailing regularly because it’s so easy to keep in touch that way.  And it gets him off the hook of actually showing up.  He may drive you crazy with changes of plan, backing out, and canceling at the last minute.   He isn’t doing this to be mean; it’s just his way.  He doesn’t understand how upsetting this is to you — and that’s the whole problem right there.  In a nutshell.  Cancer needs constant reassurance and the physical presence of the beloved to feel loved and cared for.  With Gemini, it’s not gonna happen.


Sex:   Gemini tends to make love like they were watching someone else do it.  That’s why they like phone sex and text sex so much.  It’s sex at an arm’s length.  It’s not that Gemini is cold, but there’s an element of detachment in everything they do.  He would be just as happy putting a camcorder in your bedroom as actually being there with you.  If this doesn’t sound warm and cuddly, get out while you can, because he will never change — and neither will you.

When It’s Over:  It will probably die a thousand deaths before it’s actually over as Cancer clings to Gemini, begging over and over again for what she will never get.   There’s a little Rule of Thumb in astrology: “Air tortures water.”  Gemini is an air sign.  Cancer is a water sign.  Life is a comedy to those who think (air sign) and a tragedy to those who feel (water sign).  Cancer can really get her heart broken while Gemini keeps waltzing her around the room.

Our Rating:  4/10

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76 Responses to Gemini Man and Cancer Woman Compatibility

  • Nita says:

    Wow…that was sad but true. I’m a Cancer married to a Gemini and I’ve known since I said “i do” it was a matter of time before we split

  • k says:

    this is SOOOOOOOOOOOO TRUE! im a cancer woman that was married to a gemini male also…

  • nancy says:

    Outstanding feedback, thanks and tell a friend!

  • Sad says:

    true for my marriage, cancer girl gemini guy.

  • Butterfly says:

    So true, cancer women married to a gemini male…. equals divorce and since the divorce I’ve never been happier :)

  • nancy says:

    @Butterfly

    And he’s probably still trying to get back together!

  • k says:

    this is sooooooooooo true! i am also a cancer female who was once married to a gemini man…. what an emotional roller coaster for me!

  • SA says:

    nancy, i wonder why gemini man & cancer woman is rated 4 / 10 and not a recommended match, while gemini woman & cancer man is 8 / 10. There are other examples too when the sexes change, does that really make a difference ?

  • nancy says:

    Yes!!!

  • GeminiMind says:

    This CAN be true. However, I’m learning through astrology that the elements are suppose to understand each other, like Chakra’s. If astrologers (which I think we all are subliminally) truly know their stuff, then why can’t they ‘know’ the values and idiosyncrasies of the opposites of all signs? Hmmm….Well, for me I’m learning to understand and (key word here) respect the other elements of ones being and psyche. Just my thought. GM

  • nancy says:

    The elements understand each other. That is a truism. But that, my dear naive Gemini Mind, is NOT what relationships are all about.

  • Tony says:

    What about two God fearing people who are willing to work together and follow the rules of God?

  • nancy says:

    @Tony
    Anything is possible with God’s help. God bless you, Tony.

  • sheeba says:

    yes true with my friend

  • clau says:

    I’m a cancer girl w a gemini man and u really need to go through the motions of ur gemini man. I’ve been w my gemini for a year and he understands my emotions and moods and I understand his dou ble sideness. I think its all about equal balance and we work wonderfully

  • cancer girl says:

    i got out of the realtionship with my gemini man…but he trully is a good guy just not really what i want… he is a gemini/cancer cusp and Im a cancer/leo cusp can we actuallly work out?? cuz we have a kid together and I never pictured myself having a split family..He still loves me very much but would it be worth it to try again???

  • Sam says:

    THAT is the spookiest and most accurate thing I’ve ever read in my LIFE. I got goosebumps reading it and the hairs stood up on the back of my neck, I kid you not.

  • Sam says:

    Nancy you are truly gifted, that article literally played out the last six years of my life like a film script, I wish I read this six years ago!

  • Omar Ahmed says:

    well i am a gemini man and i agree for lots of things here in that great article but i never think i will cheat on my girl ( she is a cancer ) or can even leave her i think i can’t find a better compatibility with any other sign cuz she is my opposite and that’s not bad both of us understands the other and we put rules upon which we deal together but u made me worry if this will go on forever as i wish , whenever i read about my sign i feel sad it’s like we are the worst ever ^^ but anyway i’d try my bes to prove that this is not a rule for a gemini/cancer couple to end fast….. and thanks Nancy your article has lots of true words… but not all ;)

  • nancy says:

    @Omar Thanks for the great feedback, Omar!

  • Margaret Dixon says:

    I have been in affairs with three geminis (I didn’t learn my lesson) but never again. If I meet someone who says he is a gemini, I stay clear. They all cheat, tell lies and are never thinking of the other person just themselves.
    I just loathe them

  • Margaret Dixon says:

    I took one gemini back three times and three times he left me, now he has gone for good but still interferes in my life. He says he still loves me but I know it isn’t true, he likes me around in case he needs help financially but the well has ran dry for him. No more help with his hard luck stories, he is just a womaniser. So women everywhere never get involved with an Anthony Corbett (a londoner living in Newcastle upon Tyne

  • Cierra says:

    A lot of people need to understand that this is Gemini’s personality. I am a cancer and feel as though he is my other half , yet i have a daughter with a pisces an and he is WAY more compatible with me. I however, as a cancer woman and don’t like the idea of being tied down by pisces. Or at least not right now. Gemini has been in my life for 6 years. He was in my life 3 years before pisces came around. I was 16 and gemini was 18 when we met and we started off as strictly friends. Close friends like we were inseparable at one point but we ended up catching feelings, and he pushed me away. It was the worst feeling ever felt and honestly never felt like this about ANYONE. It scared me. When he left he took a part of me that stuck. My relationships after gemini we’re never taken as serious as i took it with gemini. I could never shake him off. While keeping my distance for 3 years, after pulling myself together, he randomly calls my moms house and asked for me. My mom gives me his number and we’re back at it again. Here I am feeling vulnerable, once again, yet this time I’ll be a a lot stronger. I feel like he has half of my heart and it seriously effects the relationship between me and pisces but I honestly can’t help it. I try. Gemini and I should have never taken our relationship past sex and all of the emotions in me would have been fully kept to myself. He was strong and I was not. My illusion My mistake. I admire that about him. And he taught me a very valuable lession. He changed me emotionally. Now that he’s back in my life (as a friend at the least) i feel way more complete. This feeling is sickening and i wish i can get RID of it ! But since i can i have tread warily around his feelings.

  • C. says:

    ALL OF THE ABOVE is one hundred percent accurate…
    I guess in the long run, geminis and cancers are two breeds that do NOT play well together. Tthe dominance,protection, and the humiliation is THRILLING but the heartbreak, devestation and emotional breakdown is NOT! i have been IN LOVE with TWO Geminis and both times that love was capable of consuming me..my mind heart and soul was in this mess of a mix and in the end , BOTH times.. i ended up weak and brokkkkke down. It will NEVER GET BETTER , NEVER CHANGE, OR TURN AROUND. i am definitely sad to say it, but i am staying far away from Geminis..

  • Mandy says:

    How true! I currently am pregnant and in a relationship with a Gemini and am scared to death after reading this! About a month ago he left me and said that he wanted a “break” mind you I was 8 months pregnant. And recently he has decided to stay and try and work things out. But I am still very sceptical. Should I just call it quits now or wait for him to break my heart again? Someone please help!

  • I. says:

    Totally True.
    Btw I love your articles Nancy, I see that they are true. My bf’s parents are like this and the man moved on while the woman still lingers single. I’m a Cancer myself with a Leo and it’s working well. Thank you

  • Diana says:

    I have a question Nancy! I am taurus .. asendent in gemini , moon in cancer! can this affect my relationship with a gemini??

  • DonGem says:

    Nancy, after reading this it sounds like you’ve had your heart broken by a gemini, you know our secret ways all 2 well. Yes we tend to space ourselves from cancer but its only to bring them in closer. Cancers NEED alot of attention, if I went around giving it to her all the time where would be the fun in that (4 both of us) giving a cancer female all the “supposed” attention she craves is impossible because its never ending and shes never satisfied no matter how much a gemini tries! lol, but seriously I’ve been with a cancer for 2 years now and it took a year to understand each other and come to a mutual compromise. Just like in any other relationship there are going to be problems you just have to recognize them to make sure the relationship works out. If your a cancer girl don’t loose faith in your gemini man communicate with each other and you’ll find your balance.

  • **** says:

    why would u delete my comments? Margaret dixon needs to be learnt a lesson…. she has already wrecked 1 marraige i know about, hmmm how many more… anthony corbett has a girlfriend now, a young 1, what wud he want u for? he has been seeing her for a few years now… so the only thing u are is a booty call!!!

  • cee says:

    It’s so interesting to read about gemini man and cancer women. I am a cancer women w a gemini man and I understand him very well. He sometimes doesnt understand me. I know when he needs his alone time, and when to keep my moods to a minimum. I had a child w a pisces man and our relationship was too predictatable. Where this relationship is honest, commited and exhilerating

  • CW says:

    I dated a Gemini male for a year. He was extremely into me the first month we dated. And in true Cancer fashion, I pushed the issue of a relationship. In hindsight, I think this really scared him: to “define” things. After that, it was downhill. It felt like I was doing all the work in the relationship. He didn’t “show up” in the relationship, yet always talked about taking things to the next level. He would bring up and talk about marriage and children, but couldn’t handle simple dating. He was ALL talk. It ended of course. BUT we remained friends for about 4 years after that. I had moved on, but he still talked of wanting to make me his wife and how he was working to move up in his career so we could have this wonderful life. Gemini men have this image in their head of a happy life and verbalize it to you, but they seem to struggle working towards it. My breakup with the Gem was the only civil break up I’ve ever had. Most ended very badly because there was a lot of emotion and passion. My conversations with my Gemini ex were actually logical and more mentally based. I recently decided to cut off all communication with him because I really hate someone trying to sell me fairytales. However, I always wish him well. So, my advice- Gemini men and Cancer women make good friends, but don’t make a romance out of it.

  • biplab says:

    Nancy, I am a gemini man. all what u have said about a gemini is true.I liked so many women earlier but never proposed or commited because i did not find those characteristics i searched in a woman. recently i have found my soul mates. she is cancerian. reading this i am afraid of hurting her in this same way you have said. i dont want this at all. i am truely honest in this. but you please tell me if gemini and cancer cant be good life partners at all then why being a gemini i have found all the qualities i dreamt of being in my lovers. ihave waited long and finally have found my dream girl. now reading this blog i am really sad…….please help me , i need help. what should i do? leave my so waited love after reading this page?but i fear i will die beacuse i have found the best girl i have ever met. i truely love her.i will not be able to tolerate any break up. please help me..

  • adriana says:

    Dear biplab I am not Nancy, but has a Cancer girl challenge by a Gemini men who can’t get hes act toghether in any part of hes life, it sims to me that you already have the answer: If you found you soulmate and don’t want to hurt her then you wont and it will work, because of love, true love. You guys are lucky to have found each other. God bless your relationship. Amen

  • josh says:

    I really liked that line, life is a comedy to those who think and a tragedy to thos whoe feel. Very true and being a gemini I take pride in my ability to see the logical side of life and laugh off the hurt. My cancer gf is having difficulty with my distant attitude, its true, but we tallk out our differences on a regular basis and we make it work. Ironically I find myself to be more nervous of her cheating than she is of me, but as a gem I can tolerate my jealousy by being logical and keeping my guard up. I believe we can work through our differences since we haven’t had a real fight yet, but we shall see. who feel

  • LAARNI says:

    IM A CANCER WOMAN AND UNTIL NOW STIL LOVING MY GEMINI MAN..SAD BUT TRUE :( …THE LAST PARAGRAPH WAS EXACTLY RIGHT..TRUE LOVE BURNS FOR A THOUSAND YEARS..

  • roc says:

    I believe that God makes anything possible. As a cancer woman, married to a gemini man, it’s definitely a challenge and work. But what isn’t work if GREATNESS is to come. We both are pieces to the same puzzle, as different as we may be in thought and ways, the two different pieces connect to complete OUR puzzle…There’s hope everyone, just have FAITH =)

  • Chelsea says:

    I have been dating a Gemini man for about 5 months and every single bit of the above is true. It sums him up to a tee. But still I cant end it! We are magnets drawn together by our wicked sense of humor and sexual chemistry and yet I am always left feeling emotionally starved and never knowing where i stand. He definitely lies and he is a master of avoiding any conversations about anything serious. He simply wont make plans and im constantly left waiting. He drives me completely insane. I know its going nowhere as we are fundementally so different yet im sure we will die a thousand deaths because we can get enough of one another. Wow what a ride. Never again after this Gem Man – never ever again. I am the ultimate cancerian woman in every sense. I cant wait for this to be over yet i dont want it to end!

  • Sam says:

    I am a Cancer woman Married to a Gemini man for 10yrs now.We have been together since I was 14 and he was16.We have 5 beautiful children and he is a wonderful father and takes that role very seriously.I am not going to tell you that it has not been a rollercoaster but what is life if not a roller coaster.You have to be a strong Cancer woman to handle a gemini,you have to serve it back to them the way the serve it.He is my soulmate and I would not trade him for anything.
    .

  • Willa712 says:

    WOW…..Cancer girl talked with gemini male for only a couple of weeks, got the craziest message about a joke I sent it him in fun. Was not suprised at all bcuz I had read all of these comments, but decided I wasn’t in the mood (yes moody me) for the roller coaster ride to nowhere…..Chucked him duces….and kept it moving….Life is too short to waste time and emotions, I rather be making $$$!!!

  • michelle says:

    wow. sam is right. i love my man and he loves me. but its the one of the most confusing relationships i have ever even heard of. i try daily to make it work and i think im succeding, we’ve been together for 1.5 years.

  • SillyCancr says:

    I too am a Cancer married to a Gem (5 years and counting….known each other for so much longer)…I never realized that the only other guy I’ve ever been in love with was also a Gem.

    Eveythin is so true here….the distance, the never feelin like he gives enuf affection, loving social and career life and OH the LIES I hav been told ova the years….We hav bridged the divorce convo sevral times.

    We Bth Love each other just hv 2 figure out how to learn each other and if we can deal with the nuances of each otha.

  • laluya says:

    i really dont understand gems ima cancerleo so like when we first had started out or whtever he was talkin bout about how he was going to take care of me and doin all of this sweet talk then few weeks after we tlk he had tricked my mind and we ended up have sex then the next day i seen him and he just said hi and im feelin so wierd like i just get a hi and thenn we staarted talkin again on the phone and he was telling me how he had a girlfriend this girl that he been going out with for years and then he had trick my mind again we ended up havin sex two more times thenn i im just think that he is an love with me i even had him eat me out when i was on my period and that did not work he did not know so thenn he call me last night so we talk then he said he was going to call me back and when he did he told me that he had the girl i was tellin you about pregnant then he was tellin me the story how he had got caught up by his girl that why they not together anymore and then he said some shitt she gon be back she aint going nowhere and im thinkin in my head like why are you tellin me this when you know how much i want to be with you so i say cancers there are no future with a crazy ass gem they got different personality you are right about us nancy good job

  • Anu says:

    hi nancy, i guess my girl read this and now breaking up with me, there are so many negative articles on the gem-can relation that i am in no way able to make her understand that we can make a good pair and live happily ever after marriage. I am saying this because she has given me some reasons which i can find here on the comments and i personally feel that she never had these feeling about me before. But now she doesn’t even believe on my single word and whatever i do she thinks is fake. can you help me…

  • Fred1 & Fred2 says:

    I’m a Gemeni man. Divorced my Cancer woman. It’s all true! Married 22 years. I was happy doing my thing. Provided a great lifestyle to my wife and kids, but we were never on the same page. She was happy nurturing the kids, but we never had the connection and excitement that a Gemeni man needs to keep life an adventure. I know what you Cancer women are thinking…no, I never cheated on her, never would on any woman. I get a kick out of reading these posts. All makes sense to me. Don’t take it personally. The right match will produce a great life. Next time it will be Aquarius or Libra.

  • #46 by unknown source says:

    Gemmi Man, This is my first time dating a Gemmi Man. What I can say right now it that it has been 8 months now that past. This Gemmi man has been the perfect gentleman. Their family oriented, close to their moms. They love hard when they fall in love. However, it something happens with the relationship on the other mates end of the stick. It takes them time to heal their wounds to restart over again. These men do need to be free to roam around with family, friends etc. They like flashy things cars, money and beautifuly women shape right for their image. Their not sweet eaters at all. They eat healthy foods and are very conscious of their weight at all times. This sign is very out going and very venturous.

  • #46 by unknown source says:

    Comments from a Cancer Women on her Gemmi man. He also proposed to me right away 5 times and bought me a 2 karat ring.

  • II says:

    gemini man here. it crashed and burned

  • II says:

    that being said when it was good it was reallllll good. cancers are great lovers. made me SO many sandwiches. I took her out all the time and paid for it all. in the end tho ;_;

  • pia says:

    I’m a cancer woman (July 2) dating a male gemini-cancer cusp (June 21). I was 15 and he was 17 when we first got together. It’ll be 3years in june that we’ve been together. This is exactly true. Our relationship can be a rollercoaster! At the end of the day he is overall a very sweet and caring guy! He shows how much he loves me since he is half cancer, but sometimes it doesn’t seem like it’s enough. He gives me money and takes me anywhere I want to go. On his negative side he seems to be moody out of nowhere and he seems to have a distant attitude and haves a hard time showing intimacy at times. When this happens I tend to be moody, overly emotional, and clingy. So then we end up giving each other space which refreshes our day and it makes our relationship better! Overall we’re mostly on the same page because we understand each other’s DIFFERENCES and we bring them to a BALANCE so we won’t clash as much. Sometimes it can be frustrating, but I can handle that, it’s all good, I think we’ll last because we’re made for each other. In order to hold on the way we want to we all have to be about “fulfilling each other’s desires” to get what you need and everything should work out. Just got to believe in one anothers actions and OWN up to them. I know for sure and mostly for a fact that he doesn’t cheat or lie i’ve known him way to long for that! We love each other very much. I love when he asks me how my day was and I love when we both say the three letter word it just makes my day. We’re just to of a kind.

  • eva says:

    Gemini man are fun and exciting! Wouldn’t call them cheaters, anyone can be a cheater. But I believe they can be on their own for a LONG time, they don’t necessarily need to have a girlfriend. Which I’m not surprised about, since they are very outgoing and charming (guy’s best friend) and the charm gets all the girls attention towards him. I say that, because i have plenty of gemini guy friends and tried dating couple of them too. I’m definitely super attractive to them, but for some reason the “relationship” wouldn’t really go anywhere. I’m not sure why, maybe because i haven’t really met one that wants the actual relationship, they seem fine just being single. And all the Gemini’s I know love having the freedom and do whatever. My point is they are very fun and can be a great friend for a Cancer woman, but if you want a real relationship and man that will take care of you and be GREAT in bed, like we are;) go for Scorpions!!!

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